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writes:My ex-gf and I broke up January of last year after two years together. Since then, she's gotten a lot closer to her best friend... who's a guy. And I know he's all for it, too, because I know he's liked her since way before I came along. The dude didn't have to tell me anything, it was completely obvious.When my ex and I were together, I tried explaining this to her but she would just get mad at me because she thought I was bashing him or something. I mean, I kinda was only because I didn't want to lose her to a guy who totally kisses her ass. She seems very happy when she hangs out with him (or so she's told me). And I'll admit, the guy is really nice but he totally stole my chick!I know she's never cheated on me and I may have... slipped up... a couple of times in the past. But that girl is mine! Why can't she be happy with me? Why does she have to date her best friend of way too damn long and completely forget about me?The point of this post is that I do want her back. How do you think I could do this?
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reader, Yarou  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Umm ok lets start...
First of all when girls have a boy as a best friend there are 50% chances that she likes him. It depends on the girl who your crushing on. You've been dating for 2 years.. you should be more confident you should trust her because no girl can handle 2 years of relationship with someone she doesn't like.
Further more she would have broke up with you.
But she seems loyal .
And about the jealousy thing. It's normal for being jealous i understand that but be careful because it might lead you to places that you wont enjoy. But now that you broke up the girl is free to do whatever she wants and i told you that there is 50% chances that she might like him.
If you want her back you have to tell her how you feel. If she responds negatively this means she's not the girl for you. If she responds positively this means you're good to go again.
But even if she responds negatively it doesn't mean you have to mistreat her or even her best friend. If you like her and he makes her happy you wouldn't hurt her feelings by doing something stupid to her best friend would you?
Now what you have to do is go tell her how you feel :)
Good luck !
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reader, veronika  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Er, hate to break it you - but, um, she's your EX-girlfriend. "EX" meaning that you're not going out anymore.You're entitled to still have feelings for and have the desire to want her back, but what you're NOT entitled to is *her*. She isn't yours. In fact, she isn't really his either in my opinion because I don't believe in one person 'owning' another.Let her do what she wants, and if she comes back to you, good for you. If she stays with him, then that's a clear sign that you need to get over it and move on. Face reality.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (24 January 2010):
 You're not together anymore. She's not yours and she's free to date whoever she wants to. It's been a year since you broke up and it doesn't sound like you wanted her back until she started being interested in this guy. You need to let go and let her find her happiness.
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