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writes:Hi I am looking for immediate answer .I am from India and I am in love with a girl .I know her for nearly a year.Yesterday she said that she is engaged.Know I love her and Today I want to confess my love .Should i confess it?I do not want to loss friendship with her too.Please advice ........
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reader, cat lady  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 That depends upon a thing or two you have NOT told us. Has this engagement been arranged by her family instead of by her independently? Does she even know the guy very well? If you have been acquainted with her a long time, that might be the case, if you never heard of him till now.I see no reason why you cannot 'confess your love' and still keep your friendship. It's a good thing for a young lady facing profound changes in her life to know there is someone around who cares for her deeply and that she can rely upon in case of trouble. It's all in how you do the confessing. You can be perfectly frank in telling her you had hopes of keeping her yourself because you love her and always have done.If she IS involved in a family arrangement with someone she doesn't know very well, well, I in her place would keep open some avenue of escape in case the guy turns out to be a problem instead of a blessing. You need to find out how much SHE had to do with this engagement and listen to her carefully so you know what she really wants. If it turns out she'd rather have her old friend, (you) you can always show up at her window at night and carry her off on horseback. That's how my great-grandparents got married.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 She has made her decision, be happy for her and as a friend let her know you are happy for her and you could also say that you wish it were you. If she has feelings for you that way, y ou never know she may own up to them, if not, just be happy for her.
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