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writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now. I would say its a serious relationship, not a casual one. We see each other after work 4 out of 5 weekdays, and most of the day on Saturdays. I usually don’t see her on Sundays. She lives very close to where I work so I don’t have very far to go when I see her after work. On weekdays, at the end of the day, I would only have enough time to drive 35-40 minutes to get back home, and go to sleep. I don’t have time to do anything else but that, or else I would not have enough sleep for the work day.Yesterday I said to her that I felt rushed when I come home and that I don’t feel like I have enough “me” time, so I said to her I wanted to try a new schedule, “I want to spend 3 days at home on the weekday to have some more “me” time”. She got upset and started crying when I said that, and she said to me “Why would you not want to see me for 3 straight days? That would mean I only get to see you on Monday, Friday, and Saturday.” She also got upset that I needed a schedule to see her.I don’t know what to make of this situation. Am I demanding too much? Can you help? Reply to this Question
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 i have been in the exact same situation - my boyf suggested it and i was slightly upset at the start but agreed. the reason why i was upset was because i didnt understand enough about why he wanted it, but i learned that 'me' time is completely fine and nothing to do with the relationship itself. talk to her and let her know that the only reason why you want this is because you would prefer to spent proper, enjoyable time with her rather than rush through it during the week. another thing i learned from it is that the days that you do get to spend together, you value it alot more and find more excitment in the relationship. if you wanna talk more about how to sort this out, email me, i do have the experience!!
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