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writes:I've moved in w/my fianc'e, but, after only living together for just over a month, I'm not sure if I want to be with her anymore? She has changed dramatically! She is very mean, she seems to be very selfish now, and she doesn't seem like her old happy self (like before we moved in together) She is 4 months pregnant w/my baby (we found out she was pregnant about a month after we were engaged!) I do love her and I try to make her happy, but Idk what to do. I try talking to her and she puts no effort into having a conversation about us! I feel as if my life has basically went staight to hell!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for all your help. I will definitely take the advice and can hopefully make some positive improvements on my relationship w/my beautiful fianc'e. I truly love this woman and yes, even when she doesn't look her best, or she is sick, or just whenever, I truly think she is beautiful. I will check back w/updates. Once again thanks everyone for your help.
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reader, ADVICENTE +, writes (28 April 2009):
 I am a mother of three at 31 and I can tell you that during pregnancy the womans hormones are aweful and we suck with attitude. Nothing against you guys and we dont mean to be but there is no controlling it. About the end of the second trimester you will see her come back and at the end you both will be so excited for the baby it WILL be worth it in the end. A little advice, Keep telling her she is beautiful and how happy you are. She needs this reassurance. In the mean time, have a couple beers to get yourself through it:)
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 It sounds like she's in distress emotionally. She probably loves you a lot, and you obviously love her, but she sounds like she's under stress (the pregnancy, her father's illness, her unemployment) and taking it out on you. I'm not defending her actions, because it's wrong to hurt someone you love... but, that's what humans do sometimes. It's unfortunate.
I believe that if you truly love each other, that love can conquer all (aww how cheesy I know). Even in GOOD relationships, there will be those rough times when you both want out. It sounds like you're going through one of those. Hang in there and remember how much you love one another and how sad you would be without each other... and believe it will work out. Sometimes you have to believe before you see the proof.
I have no idea what religion you are, and I don't mean to offend you, but prayer couldn't hurt, nor could talking to a pastor or a priest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): It sounds like she's in distress emotionally. She probably loves you a lot, and you obviously love her, but she sounds like she's under stress (the pregnancy, her father's illness, her unemployment) and taking it out on you. I'm not defending her actions, because it's wrong to hurt someone you love... but, that's what humans do sometimes. It's unfortunate.
I believe that if you truly love each other, that love can conquer all (aww how cheesy I know). Even in GOOD relationships, there will be those rough times when you both want out. It sounds like you're going through one of those. Hang in there and remember how much you love one another and how sad you would be without each other... and believe it will work out. Sometimes you have to believe before you see the proof.
I have no idea what religion you are, and I don't mean to offend you, but prayer couldn't hurt, nor could talking to a pastor or a priest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHer father has heart problems, and I know she has a lot going on right now also (which all I want to do is help and support her) but idk why she won't even take the time to talk to me about it? I am more than willing to listen and help her. This woman is my life, I have made many sacrifices for her. I don't want to lose her, I would like to think that me and her can make it through any tough time! I realize that relationships are give & take and that sometimes you have to give more than take. I'm willing to give everything I have, maybe I'm just running on empty at this moment. I do appreciate everyone's help thus far. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, she has been very unwilling to compromise on anything, she gets mad and goes off about the smallest things now days. Her father is ill and has moved in w/us (2 wks ago) and I have no problem helping take care of him, but she expects me to do everything ... Take care of her dad, work 50-60 hrs/week. (She lost her job 3 wks ago) She just seems oblivious to the fact that I have a lot on my plate now and I'm doing the best I can to be there for her, but, If I try to talk to her about it ... She doesn't want to hear it. Our sex life has went down hill, we had more sex when we were not living together! I do love her and I thought I would spend the rest of my life w/her, but now, I'm not sure if our relationship will last even 1 more year! I really want to work it out with her and get back to happiness w/her, I just don't know how at this point.
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