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writes: There is this girl I work with who I just can't seem to get over. We have had and on/off relationship for the past 6 months or so.I really care about her but she always gets drunk and does stupid things. I found out recently that she slept with my best friend and lied to me about it, then she admitted that she's slept with 16 different guys in the last 9 months!She always seems to have more than one guy on the go and they are usually sleazy losers who just use her for sex. I think I'm wasting my time. But as much as she treats me like sh*t I cant seem to stop thinking about her.She is 27, I hoped she might have grown out of this behaviour by now but I know I shouldnt expect her to change. Is this just a hopeless situation?
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reader, Ryder  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 I think you are right on the tracks. You are wasting your time with her.. If she had slept with 16 guys in 9 months then she is probably just having fun being a player or so.
She doesn't seem to be willing to be in a commited relationship and therefore sleeps with guys has her fun and breaks up and like you said they are sleazy losers dont forget they are guys who are looking for the same thing she is looking for.
My advice is just forget her if you want to have some revenge sleep with her and tell her its over get her jelous cause nobody probably did that to her she will get jelous see how she reacts and make her feel in you shoes.
It will be fun and will be the best solution to just get over her cause in your eyes you will be the winner ;)
Hope this helps :P
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reader, bonym  +, writes (4 May 2006):
 My dear, this woman has a hold over you, a Psychological hold over you. There is a line in a song and it goes something like this "How can heaven hold a place for me, when a girl like you has cast a spell on me?"
It may sound daft, but this girl is trouble to you, she may not know she is fdoin it, but if you keep her in your head, she will slowly drive you insane. That sounds harsh, but I know how the mind works, as someone who has studied the mind and people for over 6 years, I do have an idea what I am talking about! She obviously lacks self esteeem and respect if she keeps jumping into the pants of all these fellas. A woman like that, I would not call a tart or a whore etc, but I say that she has issues, with herself and the way to deal with them is to have sex with lots of men. My dear, you need to forget this woman, though easier said than done, but get her out of your head, because I believe that from what you have told me, she is actually no good for you. Good luck. xXx
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