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writes:Helloo, I'm 17, 18 in August, and I recently started talking to this girl who I met in school about 3 years ago and I've kind of started to like her, we kissed today but there's one problem, she's 14 and not 15 until May.My best friend says I shouldn't be worrying about it so much because we both think the same thing - that she is mature for her age. I don't know, I feel a bit odd because I feel it's politically incorrect.In no way do I intend to take advantage of her or hurt her because that is definately not the sort of person I am.I just need more opinions on the whole matter, should I be getting close to someone who is 3 years younger then me?
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reader, Cupidexpert  +, writes (25 April 2010):
Back away. My friend was in your shoes and went to jail for not backing away. Call her when she's 18
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 April 2010):
Yes, back away. As the others have said, something could go wrong and you could get into trouble
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reader, fk +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Well if you want to have a sexual relationship with her then back away. I've known people who have been in trouble because they've hooked up with minors. If you want to however maintain a relationship of different sorts thats ok. It's just playing it safe on your part because being the adult ifa mistake is made its on your head. Hope it works out.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (24 April 2010):
 I think when you are 14 and 18, yes the age does matter.
You will soon be an adult. You will want to have an adult relationship, with all the things that they involve, going out (bars, pubs, clubs, 18+ films) plus the sexual side, she would not be able to do any of that as she is too young. Also, what would you talk about? Teeny-pop bands, and the latest celebrity gossip? What do 14 year old girls chat about? Rubbish mostly.
Also you have the more physical aspect. You say you wouldnt hurt her or take advantage, but until she is 16, ANY type of sexual touching is illegal (fingering, handjobs, oral, or vaginal/anal intercourse), and could result in you being prosecuted for rape.
She may think she is mature for her age, but she isnt. Even the maturest 14 year old girl is still immature. Deep down she is just another 14 year old girl, who thinks she has bagged herself a "mature" man. You are a world away from all the 14 year old boys she meets in school. To her, you are exciting, you are experienced you are a real MAN. Can you imagine the bragging points she would get with her friends when she tells them she is dating an 18 year old.
Imagine how you were when you were 14/15. How did you think? And how differently do you think now? In those few years you have grown and matured as a person, as a man, and as an individual. You are an ADULT. She is still very much a CHILD.
If you are nearly 18, then I imagine you will be leaving school soon, moving on, going into full time work or University. If you are going to Uni are you moving away? Because I can guarentee 100% once you get there you will not want to be tied to a young silly girl back home. You will be surrounded by women from all over the country who are your age and older, all looking for fun, friends, and relationships. If you are going to work full time, you will not have time for a 14 year old girlfriend, who has to be home by a certain time and spends her weekends doing homework. How would you explain to your friends, that your girlfriend couldnt come out with you because a) she wasnt old enough, and b) she had to be home by 11 as she had to go to school the next day. These things DO matter.
Dont do this, because she WILL get hurt, whether you date her or not. You will move on, and meet women your own age, and you will want to date them instead. I would also expect her parents wouldnt be too happy about her dating an 18 year old either!
Try and think about this from a wider viewpoint, how it will impact your life as much as hers. It might sound fun and exciting, but it can only lead to tears.
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