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writes:Im 25 and my girl friend is 16.I love her more then anything in life and she admits i am her first love and I believe it for the fact that i known some of her exs that sh dated for awhile and never had sex with them.we dated one month before she told me that she really wanted me to be her first.at first i told her we should wait and i refused the first couple of times i had the chance.but then in july we had sex when she offered again and i didnt refuse.im happy and all that it did happen and that im her first love but i am still afraid of the age difference and how she will change in the next 2 years the chances of us staying together is slime,this i know as well does she.we talk about everything and tell each other everything.ive know her since she was a kid,she has 3 brothers that know me very well and are ok with it.im not dating her cuz of her age i really love her alot i usually stay single alot for the fact that i look for serious relationships and will break off anything that seems short term and wont even attempt to date a girl that does not have the same outlooks for a relationship.i live in canada so anyone that will comment and say i can go to jail dont bother 16 is the legal age of consent here.my question is what can i do to prevent her from leaving me when she hits 18 19 and 20 because i dont just wanna be her first love i wanna be her only love. im done looking for the right girl cuz i found her.she says she wont leave me and i believe her but im her 1st for alot of things and the chance for to stay together is slim and it worries me alot.plz give any any advice if possible.ty
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): I'd like to point out that 16 is the legal age of consent in most places, and probably where the OP comes from, Canada looks like.
Be that as it may... there is no age law against dating someone. Having sex yes, there are laws in place to protect from predators.
But a 14 year old can date anyone they like... they simply cannot consent legally to a sexual liason with ANYONE regardless of age.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Of course you will break up...basically you have nothing in common...PLUS she happens to be a MINOR!
I suggest you begin to act your own age by dating someone in your age group. As it stands right now her changes are going to lead down the road to a life without you.
Grow up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Speaking from a girls point of a view.. (who in fact in a healthy + happy relationship with a 26year gap).. i can prove to u that it can work! i was 15 when i got together with my partener + we have made it work.. the best thing is that way he gives me advice on life.. but still lets me make my own desions.. (which r often wrong!) but i learn my life lesson + hes always there to cheer me up afterwards + give me my confidence back..
make sure u give ur gf space + as long as u have a good fondation.. trust.. friendship.. laughtar u can survive anything :)
good luck!
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reader, slipknotfan84 +, writes (16 August 2009):
slipknotfan84 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys she never did anything to make me think it wont work and im not just focusing on us breaking up it that prioritys change for young people when they get a certain age i just dont want me to be one of them that change.we get along perfectly and she said she wants to marry me
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reader, slipknotfan84 +, writes (16 August 2009):
slipknotfan84 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys she never did anything to make me think it wont work and im not just focusing on us breaking up it that prioritys change for young people when they get a certain age i just dont want me to be one of them that change.we get along perfectly and she said she wants to marry me
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (16 August 2009):
Honey, whether you're 16 or 36 or 60... there are no guarantees. For anyone. Are you sitting around worrying if you will lose your job in 2 or 3 years? Are you worrying if you will get sick next summer? the more you focus on your fears the more likely you are to behave in ways that will make them come true. Let go and just enjoy your relationship. Generally speaking the older a couple gets the less the age difference matters - not more. If you can handle 16-25, then 20-29 should be a breeze. And while we all mature and grow, people don't really change that much in the core of who they truly are.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 some people meet at 15 / 16 and have been together all their life. just these days partner hoping happens all the time because we have so much choice nothing is hardly frowned upon. and good for you waiting for the legal age but that has nothing to do with your question. it can work if you make it work but if you keep doubting and putting pressure on this relationship it will fall harder and quicker you dont want to ruin a good relationship by picking at holes. if it doesnt work it doesnt work, but you dont want it to fail because you kept picking at it.. so just be happy and live for today and be the best boyfriend she could ever have.. you never know she might think your the one and get married and what not but if you keep thinking it will fail it might just do that. be positive and talk to her about your feelings from time to time to let her know that you care and that you worry a little. just relax all good things comes to those who wait! hope this helps aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Well, it's a big world out there. Why, has some-thing happened recently? Has some-one put this into your head? Why not worry until the day comes. How long have you both been together. You are forming a real bond now. If she did stray, and you both had a happy relationship, chances are her next encounter wont be so great. There are some terrible people out there and individual people fall for individual others, so she may not receive this love again. She will remember you and probably want you back. Or you both will never part.
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