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writes: Well. There is a girl of 14 who I fancy and am not sure she fancies me back. But anyway I am 16 and have left school, and my mate keeps taking the mick because I want to go out with a younger girl who is the same age as my sister. But I don't know what to do: do I expect loads of grief from people or go out with her? And then where would I start? Reply to this Question
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reader, chav123 +, writes (12 July 2006):
I would just go for it as well loads of lads go out with lass's a lot younger dont worry about what your friends think I would just ignore them they are jealous cause your doing your best to get a lass. good luck
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 Start by finding out if she likes you. Maybe ask her to a really lightweight gathering, like a sports match or a barbeque or a party.
If she's interested in that, then you treat her the same as you would any girl you're going out with. You find out if you have common interests and go from there.
I know it's hard to cop flak from your mates about the age difference, but try to ignore it. If you were 20 and she was 18 it wouldn't make a speck of difference, so don't let it bother you now. Many 14-year-old girls are surprisingly sophisticated, so try to see the individual girl, rather than the age.
One last thought: your mates will have a much harder time teasing you about it if you don't rise to the bait. Tune them out, and live your life as if it's *yours*.
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reader, dummyduckling  +, writes (11 July 2006):
 Hey if this girl likes you go for it im doing the same im 16 and my boyfriends 14 i get greif from people and i just tell them that its my decision not theres. just ignore them because they obviously have nothing better to do then take the mick out of your life. if you too do go out may i suggest you take things slowly to begin with. good luck.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): I think the first thing you need to do is find out how she feels about you, if she likes you then take things slowly. Don't worry what other people think - it's your life not theirs. Good luck x
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reader, AvocadoMilkTea +, writes (11 July 2006):
 This is up to you to decide. You know her a lot more than anyone here. If she is someone you like and fit your interests, etc, then I say go for it. Other people who dish out grief to you are just ignorant of what really is with what they think. Try not minding them, and just go for the goal instead.
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