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*leatsrainbows
writes:okay um, where to start...well i've known this girl for about 6 years (we'll call her Chloe) and i've liked her for a good while now. i'd love to have a relationship with her; the problem is she has a reputation for sleeping around and i'm still a virgin, so i can't exactly give her what she wants. she would also most likely cheat on me if i ever went out with her.i just want to show her that she's worth more than what she thinks, because the only reason she sleeps around is due to low self esteem. i've thought about sending her flowers anonymously, just making sweet little gestures, but in all honesty i don't know what i should do. should i make a move or forget about her?
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (11 July 2011):
That's great, good to hear that your decision to post on this site was useful for you :)
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reader, aleatsrainbows +, writes (7 July 2011):
aleatsrainbows is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks a lot for helping me out! =] your advice really helped =]
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reader, idoneitagain +, writes (12 April 2011):
You should speak your feelings. Learning to take the risk and speak your feelings is one of the challenges of life and learning this is part of what you need to learn to make the transision from being a teenager to becoming an adult. Pity there are many adults who struggle to make this transision, myself included, took me a long time to learn it. If she doesn't feel the same as you, you haven't lost anything, but you gain character.You should also listen to your intuition. Your intuition tells you that she does not have the character, or the maturity, or perhaps self esteem, to have a lasting relationship with you. You can listen to this part of you by taking things slow if you do start a relationship, and just use your judgement as you get into it. Sometimes relationships end up being learning experiences rather than what we want them to be, but whatever happens, follow your feelings it will be best in the long run. Good luck.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (11 April 2011):
You have to start by deciding whether you will put her before your own good.I can tell what you are trying to do here is praiseworthy. But chances are you will end up being hurt in the process. So, if you are willing to pay that price, go for it. And I can tell you, being hurt is better than nothing.I think you should send her flowers but not anonymously. Because you have to show her which kind of person you are, and then she will understand better which kind of person she deserves to be.I guess you're right, chances are you will get cheated on. But maybe that's the only way she can make "the click" in her mind.
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