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writes:I had been with my fiance for 6-1/2 years and we were engaged 2-1/2 of them. She refused to have sex with me until marriage and she wouldn't plan a wedding that we could afford. I ended up cheating and possibly having a child on the way. I regret being so weak and I love this woman dearly. She says she will remain my friend and wants us to keep talking but things are different for obvious reasons. We ended up having sex after she found out. Now I'm even deeper in love. She tells me now that she just wants to live her life and be single for awhile but she still loves me. Should I fight for her love or should I be resentful because I love her I just made a mistake?
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (4 May 2006):
Lostandalone is verified as being by the original poster of the question I know that I screwed up big time. Thats not a question. We still talk and laugh as we used to. Its just hard for her to cope because her whole world revolved around me. I give her space and I still let her know that I love her with every fiber of my being. I will wait for her. I don't want another woman. Time now is my worst enemy not because of her making me wait I did that already and I can do it again. Time gives me opportunity to wonder and think more than what I should. I torture myself mentally more than she or any one else could.
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (4 May 2006):
Lostandalone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know that I screwed up big time. Thats not a question. We still talk and laugh as we used to. Its just hard for her to cope because her whole world revolved around me. I give her space and I still let her know that I love her with every fiber of my being. I will wait for her. I don't want another woman. Time now is my worst enemy not because of her making me wait I did that already and I can do it again. Time gives me opportunity to wonder and think more than what I should. I torture myself mentally more than she or any one else could.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): You messed up big time and you know it. Now she wants to live her life, let her or she might regret it later and if you're to be with her, time will tell.
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (3 May 2006):
First you should be ashamed, not only did you cheat on her but you disrespected her by having sex with her after you knew she wanted to wait. Thats horrible, as for her, she probably just needs time. 6 1/2 years is a while to just throw away and she's probably thinking that she should have done some thing different. I'd call her everyday just for a QUICK chat to see what she is doing so she knows you are thinking of her everyday, but I'd give her a little space to find out who she is and what is best for her. Its all about her now, you just have to sit back and wait. Good Luck!
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