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writes: help me and my girlfriend of 4 years fell out at new year.id just spent a lovely xmas with her as we both have our own house. we would spend every weekend either at hers or mine. since the argument she wont talk or answer any txts i send in a nice way. she just says she wants to be alone but wont say if the relationship is over or nothing. im at my wits end as i do not know what to do or say to her as she will not answer and i love her so very very much. please advise what im to do thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): You need to talk to her face to face not via texts and phone calls. Get her some chocs and flowers or something that you know she likes and wants and take round to her house. You need to talk to her face to face. If it was your fault the arguement, then you need to say sorry. But you need to talk it out with each other. If she doesn't want to talk then you may have to accept that this is over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): I think you need to try harder.
Calls and texts? Come on. ANYONE can do that. What does she like? What brings a smile to her face? What tickle her funny bones? If you don't know the basic ideals of what makes her tick, then maybe you definitely need to step back and ponder out why you two aren't talking at all. Otherwise, you can either follow Checkin and Bexherbs advice which are good no doubt, but to give another perspective, maybe you're not trying hard enough. You don't look sincere. Action is often a lot more geniune and sincere than words alone.
Oh, btw, don't think that the whole roses and chocolate work for every girl out there. For me it took a hand-made card invitation turned into a telegram, in hopes she will meet me at a park somewhere, where a self-cooked dinner for her over wine and fuzzy bears got her to start talking to me again.
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reader, checkin  +, writes (15 January 2007):
Hi there, my advice to you would be to give your girlfriend some space, she obviously doesnt know what she wants and although i understand its frustrating for you sitting around waiting to hear whats happening, you have been together for four years and im sure you love her very much and a bit of patience just might pay off. If you hadnt been together very long i would tell you to move on but because you have been together a while, theres obviously something very wrong from her point of view to just ignore you like that. I would write her letter telling her how you feel and then let her come to you in her time. I wish you luck
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reader, bexherbs +, writes (15 January 2007):
 hi,i think you firstly need to ask yourself why u argued and then if you love her and she feels same way things will work out.however as hard as it is to be patient please stop give her time space and tell her so then sit and wait! if it meant to be you will either get her back and be stronger in the relationship or as hard as it sounds it not meant to be .
but hey i wish you good luck x
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