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*limjim
writes:Well hear's the deal, iv been with my girlfriend for around ten months now an i really love her with all my heart, we spend a good majority of our spare time together which i love. A couple of weeks ago she told me she was going to see her friend amy but i accidently caught her out and she really went out with her ex who she left to be with me. I did confront her and she compleatly denied it, later on she confessed and told me the truth which i already knew she insists they are just friends which i wasnt happy about as i dont really like him. She has now decided that she want's to see him more often, im not happy about it but if i say anything she is going to think i don't trust her. I hav been hurt in the past and don't want to go through it again as im too soft hearted. Any advice would be truely greatful.
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reader, slimjim +, writes (1 December 2007):
slimjim is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA big thank you to every one that left me some helpful answers. I am still with my girlfriend and am asked on a regular basis if she can go and see her ex, i have told her that if she sees him that will be the end of our relationship and also if she seeshim again behind my back our trust will be gone and so will things between us. I am now beeing accused of blackmail and being controling what do u guys think? I do feel bad about being so harsh bt i dont know what else to say. Many thank's
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 If it was just a once off , you could forgive her , as I could understand that she may not have wanted you to feel bad if you knew she was meeting up with her ex.
But alarm bells are ringing, you seriously have to think about her intentions. Stating that she is going to continue seeing him is cruel to say the least. It doesnt look good , sorry dude.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): I think you should not waist your time here with us or with her. You are not stupid man, take a pain and leave her as soon as you can. Distrust between two people is the worse thing can be happen. Good luck
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reader, lil'shade  +, writes (1 November 2007):
I don't trust her because if it wasn't nothing to worry about she would have told you in the first place. You shouldn't have to catch her doing it. You can let her see her ex but be with them don't leave them alone together.
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Just reading this, many red flags are visible. I'd say something about it because of the issues I see which came up in your question.
It's fine to have friendships, but she lied about where she went, and denied it. You don't do that if your intent with someone is just to be friends. If she felt this behavior would be appropriate in the first place, she would have been upfront and not lied about it.
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