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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my gf for 8 months and we have a great sex life but now she wants me to masturbate in front of her and I refused. She gets angry and threatens to stop having sex with me if I don't do this for her, because it's always been her fantasy to watch a guy do it in front of her. I'm very open-minded when it comes to sex and am willing to do most things to please her, but this is just too personal. How can I convince her to forget all about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): "She gets angry and threatens to stop having sex with me if I don't do this for her, because it's always been her fantasy to watch a guy do it in front of her."
You might quietly remind her that you probably have a few fantasies that she'd be Very uncomfortable acting out, and how would *she* appreciate it if you threatened to stop loving her, and leave her if she didn't do what you demand?
Fair's fair; you listened, didn't judge her for it, and decided it's not something you can do. If she's REALLY so hard up for this, then the two of you can hire a male escort and have Him do this for her. Doesn't have to be you, and you're going to get resentful very quickly if she doesn't stop with this making demands and threats. Ask her which is more valuable - the relationship, or her fantasy?...
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 I agree with Guillaume, but also like he says, if it's a fantasy she has you should but feel flattered. Personally I think it's very sensual and find it a great turn-on to see my man masturbate. It took me a long time to pluck up the courage to tell him to do it for me...and likewise, it was the same for him but the other way round, and I'm glad we got that out of the way eventually, because I too wanted to do it to myself whilst he watched.If you find it too personal then leave it, again it's your call, but this is just an opinion coming from a female.I was going to post this anonymously, but thought ~ why should I hide? I'm not ashamed to let people know what my desires are. If I can help someone, then know it's me doing it.I hope you solve this and not let it ruin your relationship. Be happy.BigSisxXx
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