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writes:I have known this girl for about 1 year. During a period of time she was struggle with her bad relationship with her boyfriend. I support her by give her encouragement, also by standing by her when she needed a shoulder to cry on. etc... Unfortunatelly, as my luck brough to me, i felt in love with her. I've tried not to, but I could not control my heart. Although she broke up with him for about a month ago, I decided to tell her how I felt about her. She told me that I will always be her best friend. Since she had told me, I felt dissapointed. I decided to move on, but she does not seem to let me go. She sends me e mails telling me she misses me, that she never meant to hurt me, that she needs her best friend in her life. what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Well, if she just broke up with a boyfriend a month ago and you were there by her side as a friend, then you are in the friend zone and it is too early for her to be clear about any feelings she may be developing for you.
I think you might want to play it a little closer to the vest and be a little less available to her to be a shoulder to cry on. She needs to take the time to heal from her relationship and you will be better off just being her friend.
I think she really does miss you and she is emotionally dependent on you. A great romance has a great friendship as the foundation, so all is not lost here. You can't force it though, let the relationship unfold as it will, she isn't ready right now so accept that and if you want to date other women, do so. It is human nature to want what we can't have and a little competition might just make her realize if she has any romantic feelings for you.
Take care.
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