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writes: I have been friends with this girl for over 7 years we have dated before but nothing ever got very serious i was young and stupid to say the least we have always had a good relationship we are very much alike both only children both spoiled she even comments on how i remind her of the male version of her well over the past 2 years we have both had very rocky relationships with other people but were always there for each other through the good and bad i have fallen madly in love with her over this time i am not a shy person i told her how i feel and she said she didnt want to ruin our friendship i am miserable with her in my life as just a friend and even more miserable when i dont speak to her at all its weird because anytime i date other girls she gets severly jealous and mad and wont speak to me for weeks or starts dating friends of mine i dont understand it and never will i was just seeing if you could give me some pointers
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reader, katiepnutter  +, writes (21 December 2009):
hey i have joined this site to answer this specific question because even though i am young i understand it. When people have been friends for a long time and one of them asks the other out whatever the answer it will most probs make things weird between them. when u asked her she didnt want to make things weird and diddnt think of u in that way, as time goes by a bit she decides she does like you but then u go out with other girls and she gets jelous. She may want to go out with you but would feel to stupid asking because she turned u down and dont want the same for her. If i was you and i still liked her i would ask her out again.i know this because i have felt like this before and wanted to turn back the clocks
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006): Heya one thing to understand, women are very emotional, besides getting periods they have lots to worry about, figure make-up looks etc.... I have done what this girl has done thousands of times, she is doing it because you said you really liked/love her, and tat makes you hers, no sense I no but its true, and if you do feel about her this way she believes you shud touch no-one else as she is the one you love... She loves attention and being told she is loved.. IF you continue dating other girls this will turn her on, as women want what they can't get,and you's will eventually end up getting together, however it will not last, it will be a task for her to see if she can still get you t love her, jelousy and insucurity are weird things... LAURA CUNNINGHAM HERE, 16, IRISH, CO.LOUTH
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reader, letsriffle +, writes (1 April 2006):
letsriffle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much my mom has told me the same thing for about a year im just going to delete her number and go on my merry way but i have a feeling she will come calling in a month or 2 she always does but this time im just going to hit the ignore button
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006): HiThis is my first time doing this so sorry if this doesnt help but I was once in a similar situation.Me and my friend were best of friends for about 5 years and I always fancied her, however i woulnd'nt tell her because i'm really shy, anyway during that time I had girlfriends and she had boyfriends and we were always jelous yet when i plucked up the courage to tell her i loved her, she gave the same responce (prefer to be friends). things were weird for a few weeks after but it went back to normal, and she acted like nothing had happened, i however could'nt and told if she isnt interested in me then we cant be friends because of my feeling for her - well 2 years have passed and I have barely spoken to her but am in a really good relationship and have gotten over her, however i really miss her as a friend, so I basically I dont think you should just "ditch" her as a friend if she is good friend because you might get over her and meet someone else but also still have your friendThats my 2cense anywayp.sI'm 20 if that helps
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reader, BluntBabe +, writes (31 March 2006):
Well, hon, I hate to tell ya...If you asked her to get together while she was single, and she gave you the ole "I don't want to ruin our friendship" excuse, that means she doesn't want to be with you in that way. No matter how long somebody's been friends with someone, if they have a crush on them, they'll want to try it out. I think she is acting jealous because she is- in a way. You said yourself that she's spoiled. She has you running around after her like a little puppy, and she doesn't like it when your attention is diverted away from her. Maybe she's a little tease that loves the feeling of men wanting her who can't have her. if she was with someone else when you asked her to get together, well then maybe you'll just have to wait until she finishes things up with that guy, to see if she really does have any feelings for you.My greatest advice, however, is to get the hell away from her. Stop being friends, I'm sure you have other friends, and go out with them. Concentrate on having fun and concentrate on other, positive things in your life. Tell yourself that you are never going to see her again. I promise you, within a month's time, you'll feel free and euphoric, and you may even start falling for some other, more worthy girls.Good luck,Bluntbluntadvice.blogspot.com
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