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writes: There is this girl who I like and sometimes she makes jokes about liking me, like the other night when I got told by some of her mates that she likes me and got told by her herself she likes me. But it turned out to be a joke and she started being nasty to me. Later on in the night she told me to put my cam on and asked me about my room and stuff and we got on ok.I asked her if there is any chance we could start over and be mates becuase we have fallen out loads of times and she said maybe but you need to leave me alone. she once said to me that i meant a lot to her and she doesn't know wot she'd do without me.What do I do? She knows my feelings for her Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (6 February 2005):
 Hi there,I'd be really careful with a girl like this one. She sounds like she's heavily influenced - in a bad way - by her friends, to the point that she'd even hurt you in order to entertain them. That doesn't sound like someone you'd really want to spend a lot of time on, does it?One on one with you, maybe she's OK, but her past behaviour suggests that she's not a girl you can depend on to treat you well reliably, and any healthy, enjoyable relationship has got to start with respect for each other.My suggestion is that you give this girl quite a bit of space and let her know that you don't like it when she insults you and that if she wants to be friends, she's going to have to try being one all the time, instead of just when it suits her.If you didn't already have fond feelings for this girl, I'd be counselling you to leave her on her own. If she doesn't pull her socks up and start showing a bit more respect for you, I'd still say it's better to have a little hurt now, than to endure lots of it later, when her friends are around and she decides to use you for "target practice".Good luck.
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