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female
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41-50,
*rexi
writes:Hello I started a new job and this guy and i became close. He's married...Well this other older lady didn't approve of our closeness as she let me know here and ther. Well she befriended him and now they are' tight', and she likes to occasionally play 'innocent' and throw it in my face, then come back around all nice nice. She's pathetic and has become irritating to me over him. Anyway, He asks me some days what's wrong and what not, I just smile and move along, don't tell him. It's the workplace and frankly I'm not sure I want to tell him how I hurt.He flips her hair and they joke and what not, I just keep my distantce. But some says I fell like telling her quit. Yesterday she left and asked if I need his number in case I needed to get a hold of him. I told her I have several of his numbers and it wouldn't be a problem for me ever to reach him. (she knows I have his number). I don't know where she was coming from with such a stupid question, AND he still was on duty??? Anyway. Should I tell him when he asks or ask her to STOP next time she 'plays' me. Or should I create a scenerio toe slam her when she is with him. I don't know. I'm irritated and disgusted. She-they obeviously need the attention, they BOTh are married by the way, and I'm just irritated. LET IT GO RIGHT!!!!! thanks Any way, she like
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): I wouldn't stoop to her level. It sounds like they are stuck in high school with this childish crap. You are an adult, I dont see your dilemma here. Move on and let them be stupid together. Chances are they will get involved and ruin both their marriages. Let karma deal with them.
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (5 March 2009):
 This lady is probably just jealous of your for some reason since you had the attention first. You could as her to quit, but maybe you shouldn't really let them know that you are irritated. They are both in the wrong, especially since they are BOTH married. I don't know what is wrong with people these days. So what if they are "tight". What good is it rubbing that stuff in your face. Maybe you should just act like you don't care and you are better then them. You could just be the bigger person in this situation. I think that if you acted like "whatever", they should cool things down if they are just trying to irritate you. Maybe he doesn't really know that you're irritated. You could just be as nice as you could be to both of them and that might really blow their minds. It's a workplace and these situations shouldn't even happen. Who needs drama in the workplace, most people get enough of it elsewhere.
Good Luck with this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Ignore it. Same thing here. I was dating someone from work and a married woman knew it and kept trying to get his attention and he went for it. I got sick of it as she was just jealous and had to interfere but once I dumped him and cut contact with both, she got bored and moved on now he sits with no one and is trying to be nice to me again and I never reply to him or anything. Ever hear the saying "kill em with kindness" . Just smile and be nice and act like you could care and you're happy for them. It'll drive her nuts!
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