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writes:Well where do i start, im 15 and my girlfriend is 15, (i know i know typically you think because we are young we dont have some of the same relationship problems as adults, but that is not true, just listen to my problem) we have been dating a little over 10 months, since January 1st 2007 and recently (past month or so) shes started texting these two guys jordan and marcus (who are both 18), well lemme rephrase that they have started texting her, they attend the same highschool my girlfriend is a sophmore and they are both seniors, they have been texting back and forth constantly and hanging out with them going out to eat etc. as a guy of course im jealous but my girlfriend tells me i have no right to be jealous they are just her friends....well about a week ago we were on a date (the movies) and she gets a text guess what its from jordan, (me and my girlfriend have personal issues other than this that we have talked over and ive asked her to keep them between the two of us and shes promised me she hasnt told marcus or jordan) well she gets a text "is he treating you good, if he isnt ill come beat his ass" well i get mad because i mean listen to that...well i get mad and she starts to defend him and in the end shes on his side not mine and she cleary states that, well we leave i kinda drop it, but like i said texting constantly for the next 2-3 days its to the point where every 2 minutes she tells me to hold on (on the phone) because she has a text message (from jordan) well i get aggrivated and jealous again after a long fight we break up well that night (i found this out 3 days later) but that night bothj jordan and marcus text her "did you and justin break up?" and some other BS well we didn't talk for 2 days and we started talking again now we are back together(on the 3rd day) the night we got back together they both text her "are you and justin back together?" (they found out from facebook.com) well doesnt that sound a little suspicious, but i let it go now shes hanging out with them on wednesdays and going out to eat with them and a few other people i asked her if i can come every now and then just to get to know her friends but she tells me that im not allowed?!?! WTF this is getting a little ridiculous, they are texting constantly every day since then, idk what to do should i be jealous do i have the right to ask her to slow down texting her or just not to reply as much (to let it be known that she most certainly IS taken) or am i just insane, can i get a few opinions on this
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 November 2007):
 I don't think it's that children don't have issues in their relationships, after reading this piece you wrote, It shows the lack of knowledge and experience in effectively handling the issues that are presented.
You guys should have stayed broken up. Her behavior is not right for any relationship. If she's handing with friends and stating you can't take part with them, that's wrong too. I wouldn't spend time with those who did not accept my girlfriend, because I respect the feelings of the person I am with. She is very disrespectful with her actions toward you.
I can't believe that they make a physical threat to you, and she takes their side. That's wrong too. Sometimes, all though hard, you have to cut your losses and move on when the relationship is as unhealthy as this one is.
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