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writes: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost one year now. We love each other so much. We are both on summer break from the college that we both attend. She is living/working in a town over 4 hours away from me. she recently visited me for a few days and everything felt so perfect we are so much in love! She tells me that I am the only one for her and she could never be with anyone else. She told me there is no way she could ever cheat on me. It was very hard when she had to leave she was crying and did not want to leave me. I really think she is in love with me. When she left she forgot her journal at my house that she has been writing in for the summer. I looked in it and it says that she made out with one of the guys she works with and then later that night had sex with him. I don't know what to do. Should I confront her about it? I love her so much and have never felt this way about anyone else. I feel like she could possibly be "the one." How could she cheat on me and at the same time tell me I am the only one for her and that she would never cheat on me? I need help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): yea In her journal she did say that anything with this person she cheated with is over and she only wants to be with me, "her one true love." She said in the journal that being with him makes her miss me even more.
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reader, twinlab99  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Seriously dude...get over it and move on. Confront her, tell her what you found, if you she says you invaded her privacy tell her, you betrayed our trust first...and break up..move on.......... trust me their will be other owmen.
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Ok firstly you must have ahd suspisions to look in her diary/journal. She is a cheater and she's lied to you, she deserves to be finished. If she truly loved you she would not have made out with this guy never mind later had sex with him!honey you need to tell her as anon said : 'shove it where the sun don't shine'. She doesn't deserve you and no matter what you have to remember that this was all her fault and not yours. She shouldn't have done that, especially after saying that she would never cheat on you.also did she write in her diary that she felt guilty or anything? i'm not saying forgive her if she did, i'm just wandering if she has any feelings at all. Good luck darlin' x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): I hate to break it to you, man. I really do, but the fact is that she's obviously dishonest and you have far more invested in your relationship than she does. She's probably been bucking all around her.
You have a few possible courses of action.
My personal choice would be to tell her to shove it where the sun doesn't shine. Tell her you know what she's been at, your hurt and that it's over. I've been there, it's not nice but I wouldn't want to be tied down to someone who didn't genuinely care about me, and neither I suspect, do you.
The second is to pretend you're oblivious. Carry on as if nothing's happened, and let her get on with it.
The third, drop it in conversation about cheating. Don't accuse her, just bring it up.
And of course, there's always revenge.
Don't be a fool, man. Get out of there while you can see sense.
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