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writes:Whats the deal with this girl?I heard from her friend that she likes me, and she will often msg me and ask whats up, etc.But whenever I ask her if she wants to hang out she says she has plans, the odd times we do hang out,she doesn't really pay much attention to me.But she always tries starting a conversation with me, is she looking to be just friends?Also, before I heard that she liked me we never hung out, in fact we only met once or twice before that. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lilli b  +, writes (2 October 2007):
 Sounds to me like classic teenage girl behaviour. She is scared to expose her interest perhaps out of fear of rejection or because she wants to look cool in front of her friends.
She may like you and feel scared to look to keen or she may just enjoy having a boy admire her.
Forget whether she likes you - do you like her?
If you do, and I imagine you do otherwise it wouldn't bother you, tell her. Risk rejection and say to her you like her but you are confused by her mixed messages. Say that if she likes you maybe you could meet outside school for a coffee / cinema (or whatever) and then leave it up to her. If she likes you she will say yes and if she's playing a game she might not - you haven't got anything to lose unless you are worried about rejection. If she is playing a game, there are plenty more fish in the sea
I suspect that the mixed messages are either because she's heard to play it cool with boys and not act to keen or she is shy and loses her nerve when she initiates conversations. But you won't know unless you ask her and see what happens
Good luck
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (2 October 2007):
She's just wanting to get to know you. Go slow and it may blossom into something.
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