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writes: I just dont know what to do. I've been with my fiancee for 1 1/2 years and something feels wrong. Recently shes been acting strange around me. She wont let me kiss her anywhere except on her cheek and its like she refuses to be intimate with me. She has these moments where she will just explode in anger if I say anything. If we go for a drink after work he hardly talks to me and just focusses on everyone else in the group. E.g. If I say something she just looks at me and nods once and carries on. If I try to talk to her about these things she gets mad so I cant voice my feelings. We are supposed to be starting IVF treatment next week which was meant to be what we wanted but now im thinking 'do I really want a child with this woman?' She says she still does but is it just because she needs my sperm and is ready to dump me when she pregnant? Please someone help me!
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, niki, writes (25 February 2005): Was it a sudden change when your fiance stopped being so intimate with you? if so she may have deeper problems than just being angry and bitter. My best friend had a bad experience with someone else whilst she was engaged but would not tell her fiance about it even though it was eating her up inside. I am not saying that this is the case as you say that it is just you who she acts dismissive of when in a group, but you have to realise that there could be a root problem in all of this, not just a selfishness.On the other hand, you say that you are starting IVF treatment soon, this must put pressure on a relationship and maybe she is getting worried about what will happen when she becomes pregnant, will you love her still? will you think she is ugly?, all the normal questions that go through our heads. I think that you really need to talk to her, and tell her that this does not seem to be a good atmosphere to bring a child into if it carries on. You are not going to be happy at all until you find out what is really going on in her head, why she is being so cold towards you. If she wont listen to you, try to write something to her. I had to do this with my current boyfriend when he was acting similarly to this, it turned out that he was just stressed and needed his space to sort his head out with work and finances etc..but he would not talk to me about it.I doubt that she would just use you like that as she would also know that you would be very involved, therefore what would the point be in using you it would just create a friction which would still stay there even if you split up and im sure she would not want a child brought up like that.I think that you need to try to sort this out asap! and like you said, will you really want to bring up a child with someone who is like this to you all the time?
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