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writes: publish this as knowone replied last time. this girl shows me pictures of her pet horse and wont let anone else see the pictures. she glances at me at often smiles when she sees me. i get on well with hre friends and they appear to like me. at the end of the school year last year we played some games and she always made excuses to touch me and would always pick me. we texted each other every night last year for a few months and then split but she seems interested in me again and i wonder if i should ask this girl out the only problem is that i dont know what to say. one of her friends works in the local shop, do you think i should ask her for the girls number?
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reader, Undisclosed  +, writes (18 May 2006):
 She sounds interested buddy! Asking her in person would be more flattering :) Asking a girl is going out on a limb. It's that's simple. Simple is one word, easy is another.
If you need something to think of when your feet are frozen before that lung here's one:
-The first time you went up to the diving board when you were a kid (Your thoughts back then) "Just jump buddy - there's no in between"
If this is a first then you can smile at yourself there in the hallway, or wherever you may be, as you imagine your wet naked feet on the edge of the diving board... "I've done this before." And please do smile! :) It's not easy when all your thoughts are centered on her but try to squeeze the thought of you on a diving board, or something equally ridiculous - whatever it takes to make you laugh there and then! :)
And then? ...the question of course! No build up. It's not a 3 or 4 part question of finding out what she likes or when she's free... It's ONE sentence. Of course you want to small talk and ask her how she's doing beforehand but when it comes to the dive: ONE sentence.
"Would YOU like to go to out dinner with ME Wednesday night? I know a great Thai restaurant in town...[leave her with the silence and your smile].
The question is straight forward and clear. You don't have to repeat yourself and what you've communicated your intent: "I like you, I want to go out on a date with you". That's the highest hurdle buddy now you can take of the details...
"I'm not free Wednesday night"
---"When would be a good time for you? Let's set a date right now."
"Thai food [gives me the runs!]"
---"I understand. There's an Italian place nearby as well... Would you prefer cake and coffee?..."
"Vicky and I have been dying to try that place out! Do you mind if she comes?"
---"To be honest, I hadn't thought of inviting the others. [Give her a little silence] I enjoy your company, and you came to mind. We could definitely organise something like that in the future. [the repeat] Until then, would YOU be interested in meeting ME for cake and coffee sometime?"
"I don't think my boyfriend would like that"
---"I don't blame him, not everyone likes Thai food. [Keep smiling buddy, grit your teeth if you have to! :)] I was hoping you would. Would YOU like to meet ME for some FRIENDLY cake and coffee sometime?"
"[Whatever reason...] ...my parents wouldn't allow that"
---"I understand. I’m not really crazy about Thai food but I do prefer seeing your smile in person rather than a little smiley on my cell phone. Can you think of how we could meet sometime face to face over a [hot chocolate]?
Step 2: Print, and Iron all of these onto a T-Shirt. Give it to her, and the day she’s wearing it simply read out your lines! I hope your laughing dude :) Just relax, smile, and dive!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): No you should not ask her for the girl's number. Not only is that explicitly invading someone's privacy without positive acknowledgement, but that is very lame.
Being scared is normal, but I suggest you confront her directly.
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