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writes:I am a little concerned about my girlfriend, because a few times when we've been laying on the bed we both know we can feel the sexual tension building up and all of a sudden she will say im tired, or something and then 10 minutes later we might have a cuddle and a kiss and then she'll say why aren't you coming on to me? and i explain what she said about being tired and being half asleep, and then she will not even look at me and just sulk and say oh, rite.Also, she says she doesn't fell sexy and feels fat. i tell her all the time shes gorgeous and when we have sex she says i make her feel sexy. but my problem is that it frustrates me when she says she doesn't feel sexy, because i love that shes got a womanly figure, what i mean is she has great boobs and a fantastic bum, but in no way is she fat, or overweight on the scales, shes just a curvy girl but she cant get past the image of her being fat, but she really is not AT ALL!so my questions are... Does anyone know why she might say shes tired then all of a sudden make me feel stupid for not coming on to her?andDo girls just have ''Those days'' of feeling not sexy?by the way our relationship is amazing, its just these little things that are confusing me and would love to know what to do when she feels down.Thanks in advance for any replies
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): It sounds to me like she wants more actions from you than words, she's telling you doesn't feel sexy yet when she says she's tired you give up straight away, I know you're being respectful to her wishes but what she actually wants is for you to not be able to help yourself if you know what I mean.
She's feeling insecure and while you are doing your best to alleviate that with the things you say, your actions perhaps (in her eyes) don't say the same thing.
There is a fine line though between being annoyingly eager and just not being able to help yourself, so you'll have decide upon your own boundries.
I don't think she's trying to make you feel stupid, she's just throwing hints at you and hoping you'll get what she's trying to tell you on your own, I know that's not the best way of doing things but if she was to tell you straight out what she wants then things would feel a bit forced and that can take the magic out of things.
When my girlfriends not feeling sexy for some reason or another then I usually go into overdrive, I'll grab her butt as she's walking past or grab her and pull her onto the couch to make out or start play fighting etc., I think at this stage she just acts like that 'cos she knows I'll be all over her. Of course your girlfriend could be different, plus be careful you don't want to start acting out of character or she'll think something is up.
Basically in my opinion the days our partners are feeling the lowest are the days when we should be trying the hardest to make them happy.
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