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writes: Hi Ive just split up with my girfriend we were together for 6 months. When people first found out about us we had a lot of trouble not only of both families but friends aswell due to the age, im 27 and she is 16 but we got through it and it made us stronger. For the first few months we were really happy and loved spending time with each other, but then she admitted having feelings towards my best friend. I spoke to him about it and he had feelings towards her too, I know nothing every happened between then but i hated it evreytime we were all together. We split up last week and it hurt me really badly but since then ive seen her a few times and we`ve had a good time. She sent me a txt saying that she really loves me and misses me, she also said that she wants to get back together but every time we met to discuss it she only wanted to be friends then would phone me again about getting back together. We have now decided not to have any contact for two weeks and then spend a day together to see how we still feel. I know that its going to bother me until the day we meet should i meet her or cut ties all together. I know that both families will be even worse this time especially her dad who she doesn`t live with as her parents are divorced, he was never willing to meet me during the six months and disliked me without even meting me. Should i meet her
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): hi in my opinion i think you should just walk away. this girl is only 16 and is at a stage in her life where she doesn't know what she wants. i myself start going out with a lad when i was that age and he too was older than me. i feel that i spent to much time with him and forgot about the important things in life. such as friends and my education. the very fact that she showed interest in your friend is a sign that she is experimenting and has an awful lot of growing up to do. be the man that you are and stand back and let her get on with her teenage life. she will resent you for holding her back in the end. i personally feel that there is too much of an age gap. i can understand where her parents are coming from.put youself in there shoes and think how you would feel if some day your 16 year old daughter starts seeing an older man.
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reader, Elliekitten +, writes (17 January 2006):
 i really think you need some time away from this relationship, try cutting ties altogether she is messing you about a little and sound like she is playing mind games after all she is only sixteen you cant make her grow up any faster, this is the problem with getting involved with people who are alot younger than us at 16 she has alot of maturing to do and mistakes to make i think you should leave her alone until she has had time to seriously think about what she wants and in this time you may realise she isnt what you want, i hope i have helped, good luck
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