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writes: Hi there I am 21 and I live with my boyfriend who is 23. He has recently been banned from the local gym after complaints about him taking photos of men getting dressed. He's been banned from another local one too, after a man saw him taking the photos and threatened to kill him.What do I do about it? what problems has he got? I talked to him about it, but he said it's none of my business - but is it and what do I do??advice appreciatedKelliex Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006): I don`t really have any advice for you because i am sort of in the same boat.
I have recently found pictures on naked men on husbands pc & i have also found out that he ha been looking on gay web sites for pics of men to & i haven`t been able to bring myself to ask him about them.
So all i can say to you is that you are not alone & i hope you manage to sort every thing out, i wish you all the luck in the world.
Best wishes love "CONFUSION"
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): Sounds to me like he is struggling under the surface with his sexuality. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but why else would he want pictures of naked men on his camera. He probably thought it would be a good idea initially as you wouldnt find any porn logs on the computer. This has clearly now got out of hand. I think that he is probably angry with himself for having these feelings and is trying to satisfy himself, so that he can keep living a lie. It's definately time to confront him over this picture ordeal. If he has been banned from gym's then it is obviously pretty serious and getting out of hand. Dont accept answers that it's none of your business. You are obviously in a serious relationship. You have every right to know.
Good Luck.
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reader, Elliekitten +, writes (17 January 2006):
 oh my goodness this is tough, poor you! if i was you i would try again to talk to your b/f stating that this is quite clearly your business as you are his partner and therefor share your feelings with each other, he may be depressed or need professional help. if talking doesnt help i would suggest an ultimatum tell him to talk to you or you will have to finish the relationship you will see from his reaction how he feels,
it sounds like there could be a few reasons for him taking the photos the obvious one is he is gay or bisexual, if this is the case how would you feel.
the next is that he may be selling the photos or posting them on the internet for some reason, how would you feel about that,
and the last reason could be curiosity of other peoples bodies,which is least likely.
now i wouldnt feel very happy about any of these if this was my partner.
you seriously have to think about weather you are happy in the relationship and if he is the man for you do you want to cary on being with someone who you do not know and trust, i wouldnt.
anyway its your call but good luck hope i have helped a little.
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