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She says she doesn't want to be with me but signs say otherwise

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Question - (21 June 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 June 2007)
A male United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Sorry if this is too long of a question, it is hard to sum it up but I will try.

The short question is this "What is she thinking?"

The reason for the question goes like this.

Started seeing a women in Nov of 06, we had known each other for 6 years previous. It seemed (to me at least) that everytime we started getting serious, she would back away. She decided (around 6 months in) that we should no longer see each other and also stated that it would be best if we did not stay in contact with each other. Although difficult, I decided to move on...2 days ago she calls me to let me know that she is sitting in on a private concert by a singer who sings "our" song, she then calls me while the singer is singing the song so I can hear...She was not doing this to be spiteful... My questions is this, why would she call me in the first place after initiating the no contact rule, why call during the song, and then why call again later that day only to hang up before I could answer the phone? So, I ask again; What is she thinking?

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A female reader, mcbirdie United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2007):

mcbirdie agony auntSometimes people get lonely. Sometimes they ponder the old "what if?" Most of the time, it doesn't mean anything, really. Maybe she wanted to see if you still felt anything, or see if she still felt anything. Maybe just idle curiousity.

I wouldn't think about it too much. Get back to moving on and forget about it. If she wants to change the current status of your relationship, let her make a move less ambiguous than this. When someone says they don't want to be in a relationship, believe them. Until they say otherwise, keep believing that.

Best of luck.

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