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writes:So my girlfriend broke up with me a week ago after almost nine months. before we started going we were friends and she was dating someone else who she broke up with because she wanted to be with me. we got along great and fell in love. last month i started giving her attitude even though i wasnt trying it. it hurt her and so i tried to fix it. last week she told me that she wanted a break and that we would get back together after a little. then she told me that she didnt feel the same about me and that she didnt want to be in a relationship; but she still wants to be friends but needs her space first.I feel that i pushed her away with my attitude and couldnt change it in time. i also think i was clingy with her. she just got her old friends back and i guess wanted to be with them. now that we're broken up shes all that i think about and i still love her and dont want to move on. she hangs out with her friends a lot and she says she doesnt really miss me. and now shes friends with her ex bf again but her friend said she doesnt think anything will happen. i hope nothing happens because it happened to me before plus she said she doesnt want to be in a relationship.ive gotten some advice from our friends. they all didnt want to see this happen and have talked to her about it. but she doesnt care. i tried everything i could to convince her to come back. i even told her that her breaking up with me showed me how much i love her. ive also talked to my mom about this because she always helps me with my relationship problems and she told me maybe i shouldnt talk to her or try to be her friend because she might miss me after a while and realize what she had and come back. i think she doesnt miss me right now because shes having fun with her friends now. but i dont want to not talk and then have it backfire with her ending up not coming back to me. i dont know what to do. i want her back so badly because she gave me everything that i wanted. i dont know how you can just let someone go like that and show no emotion or try to regain it.
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reader, lacexoxo22 +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Well sweety, the only thing I can suggest is do like she said...give her some time and space. I know it's hard because of how much you love and care for her...the only thing you wanna do is be with her or at least around her. I understand, but she doesn't feel the same. She just sounds confused or maybe she just got tired of being in a relationship. Either way it goes, your going to make things worse if you don't respect and follow her wishes. Maybe if your less available and act like it doesn't bother you, like how you said it doesn't bother her....maybe she'll realize that she does wanna be with you. There is that old saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Maybe she just needs to be away from you for a while for things to become clear. Like "you don't realize how good you had it til it's gone" kinda thing. Just try and keep active and busy so your mind isn't strictly on her all the time. Try not to think about it. Give her some time to regain herself or to find out what she really wants. Hopefully for you, by you doing this, she'll come back to you. But incase she doesn't just apologize one last time, tell her you will always love her and be there for her, but ultimately you want her to be happy...whether or not that means being with you or finding happiness with someone else. At least she's still willing to be your friend, so she won't be completely removed from your life. That's about all you can do sweetheart. Good luck, hope this helps.
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reader, HelperGal8997 +, writes (5 February 2009):
just try to for get about it i bet u r a hot guy so try and meet someone new and after a couple weeks ask her again!dont be afraid!
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