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writes:My ex girlfriend left me because we could rarely see each other ever, but we both really cared for each other and were open to the idea of getting back together when the situation between us improved. We kept in contact and kept talking every day or every other day and just talked like friends. We both still have feelings for each other but we make do and look for other people. Well she dropped off the planet this week for 3 days and never responded to my messages till today. When she did she jumped on me about being a lire, and i was blind sided. Well she brought up two main things i supposedly lied about but she claimed someone told her a list of things but she was so hurt and bothered that i lied that she forgot all but those main two. The first being that i lied about not being able to drive, this i did lie about but it was because i had girls in the past stop liking me over it, literally overnight as soon as i couldn't drive lost interest. I like her to much to loose her over this so i chose to lie within the truth. I have a car that i own but i cant drive it yet unless someone is with me with a license, and my parents stole my car because theirs broke down. I am and was ashamed of not being able to drive at my age of almost 20 and didn't want to admit this to her and she doesn't understand why it bothers me so much and zones in on the fact i lied regardless of reason. The second being someone told her ive had no girlfriends, when ive actually had 6 different very short term girlfriends and one that lasted over a year but she ultimately used and abused me in every way imaginable. She is claiming this girl never existed and she never used me and non of the other girls did either. This really hurt my feelings because i was emotionally traumatized for almost two years after the girl used me, my friends had to deal with me going through major moods and emotional break downs for 2 years. In school i layed my head down and did nothing unless someone initiated by someone i didn't even talk unless someone talked to me first. She went to school with me during this but i liked her and she brightened my day up usually so she rarely saw me like this and she has forgotten about it since then. She knew the girl but she is listening to whoever told her all this and closing her mind to me. And assuming everything this person said in slander about me is true, and wont even tell me what they said or let me defend myself at all. This was the first and only time ive lied to a girl and it was because of past experiences and i explained everything i said on here to her but she wont listening. She just keeps hanging up on me, and im not being rude or angry im being calm and she keeps doing that. My friends are centimeters from getting involved because its bull, ive been nothing but honest and treated her very well and she wont even hear me out. Im starting to wonder if she is trying to villafy me so she can more easily forget her feelings for me and move on completely, and a few of my friends think this is what she is doing. It makes since sense she went from being completely fine with me, to being psychotic about everything and wont explain who told her all this to begin with. What should i do about this aunts? She says she doesn't trust me but ive not really done anything to make her not trust me. Ive promised not to do so many things while i was with her and held true to it while we were together but i hide one thing because im ashamed of it and she flips out. I never intended for her to find out until i had my license and i soon will but she did and now she is hurt by the fact i hid it. Help!
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reader, Ish  +, writes (2 April 2010):
She's either overly sensitive, insane or seeing someone else.IF she keeps hanging up then she clearly wants her space. You need to stop calling her, stop messaging her completely..In the meantime, learn to drive.. not for her, but for yourself. Lying over something like that shows an insecurity that is just not attractive to women. Maybe over time, she might hear you out, but don't wait around for it... or cling to the notion that you'll be back together again.. Instead find ways to improve on yourself and better prepare yourself for the next person.
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reader, Ish +, writes (2 April 2010):
She's either overly sensitive, insane or seeing someone else.IF she keeps hanging up then she clearly wants her space. You need to stop calling her, stop messaging her completely..In the meantime, learn to drive.. not for her, but for yourself. Lying over something like that shows an insecurity that is just not attractive to women. Maybe over time, she might hear you out, but don't wait around for it... or cling to the notion that you'll be back together again.. Instead find ways to improve on yourself and better prepare yourself for the next person.
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