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anonymous
writes:ok so i feel bad for not trusting my girlfriend but every story iv heard about peoples first times and such dont match when we first had sex and she swears up and down she was a virgin weve been dating for 2 years and 4 months i found out about 6-8 months ago she had been lying to me for a year and a half and i dont know wether to belive her or not. can anyone help me out? some tell tail signs would be nice. she says i was her first for everything but phone sex( thats what she was lying about)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni do love her and to answer the anonomus person she said i was her first for everything and then i found out about the phone sex thing and it hurt thats why im having doubts about not being her first and please dont say to blow it off like its nothing because thats a very big thing to lie about because to me its something special to give to someone and the fact that shed been lying to me this long would hurt alot. im not most guys i dont belive in meaningless sex and if you cant own up to having done some other guy then why should i belive you anymore im not trying to be an ass i really feel sorry its just hard after being lied to for a year and a half im just looking for something to think about that will help me build my trust back up sooner. im a trusting person and once you lie it takes a while to build my trust and i know it hurts her which is why i want to figure a way out to build my trust in her back up. sorry if i confused you
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reader, Cupid_or_Stupid  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 Although you might find it hard to trust her it doesn't mean she is lying.
Ok, so your first time might've been different to other people's but not everyone has the same experiences. I know my first time was COMPLETELY different to my friend's first time. It depends on the people involved and their bodies.
However, I'm not saying to believe her either. But if you don't feel you can trust her to tell you the truth then you maybe need to step back and rethink your relationship with her. You can't have a fully committed, loving relationship without trust.
On the other hand, if you love her then does it really matter if it was her first time or not? Surely it was still special regardless?
Hope this helped :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): what do you mean? do you mean she told you you were her first concerning phone sex but it turned out not to be true? or that she told she had had phone sex with someone else but it turned out she hadn't??
I'd trust your girlfriend if I were you. I was a virgin until I was 19 and my boyfriend didn't belive it and it was very hurtful. I don't know why it's so hard to believe.
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reader, Lovemeright11 +, writes (14 June 2011):
 I am sorry to say but since she is young as you are I assume she maybe stretching the truth on what she has and has not done but it is also possible she does not want to tell you if she did something cause it was not great to her and does not matter cause she is with you and everything you have done together matters more than the other small details she left out she loves you wants you can maybe feels that's all the should matter too you if you love her and care for her.
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