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writes: Dear Cupid,I have a 'friend' who I have been seeing a lot lately whether it be a date, at my house for a swim or even we go shopping together. She has even called in sick at work just to spend the day with me (in my pool, lunch, then the movies). She is very sexy and I am almost sure I am in love with her. However, even though we are so close and even after I have mentioned my feelings towards her, her exact reply was that "she hates losing good friends after they ask her out, and she also said that I am like a brother to her" I was a little heartbroken from these remarks but we still go on dates to the movies, theme parks and everything at least twice a week, just without the kissing and the intimacy. We are really good friends but I cannot seem to crack the code of turning this friend into my girlfriend. What do I do??It has now been almost 2 years!!! (How time flies) and I am in love with the same girl that I thought I was in love with back then. I love her more than ever right now but as always with me, there just has to be complications. We still hang out often but probably not as often as before. She has been single since 2006 but has started dating this guy for the past 5 months. Even though this girl is hott! She does not sleep around... She has excellent morals... I don't have anything against her boyfriend and I cannot blame her for getting with him. She has done nothing wrong. I just love her too much and everytime I am hanging out with her, we try our best to avoid talking about her boyfriend (because she knows how I feel towards her). She is just the most beautiful person I have ever met. Just the thought of her brightens up my day. She's just so cheerful. It's like a breath of fresh air every time I'm with her. She brings me back to life. In 2 weeks I am going on a weekend holiday with her as friends. Nothing more, nothing less.But my dilemma is, how long can I go on loving her unconditionally? I feel like I'm dying inside....PS: I love this girl so much that I'm willing to wait and see what happens next. But in doing that, I'm scared that I will never find true love. I just love her to bits. In 2006 I was not sure, but now I am, even though we are seemingly breaking into our own ways.It sorta feels like I am playing a role in a movie such as 'The Notebook'....Need answers soon!!Thank you...
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reader, desperate for hugs and kisses  +, writes (6 October 2009):
even i am underoin same kind of situation.....what i have planed is to impress her in all kind of ways so at one point she must feel that she should spend the rest of her life with me...........while impresing her we ned to work little harder coz it shouldnt be the usual wa like other gus do ......we r in a difrnt position in her heart.....so we need to do lot of thing to ake our love sucess...all the best dude hpe i l also get her soon ;)
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reader, PunkyPippi  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Awww... you really can't make her see you as more than a friend, because you're playing the role of her friend. She knows how you feel about her, and by her not doing anything about it, and telling you she doesn't want to lose you AS A FRIEND, she has already let you down as gently as possible.
You have to move on. I know it'll be hard, but she really only wants to be your friend, and there is nothing you can do to change that.
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