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writes:Hi.I'm in a strange relationship situation. I've been friends with this girl for about an year. I always liked her but never thought she felt the same towards me, so I decided to let it go the way it was and remain friends.. I never told her how i felt about her.Anyhow; this girl- she's really happy when I'm around her, she blushes a lot when I'm around, she talks to me a lot on IM, always tries to get me to go to a party with her...I'm in the military and I was sent to Iraq a few months back; I got injured there and was sent back; when the news got to her- apparently she was really upset and cried a lot- when i came back and saw her again she's been different and it seems she is interested in me. I went to a movie with her one night last week and as awkward as it may sound; last night she told me that she was 'in love with me for that while back there'... and 'sorry, but i had to tell you that'.. i don't understand what that means but I'm still not sure whether i should pop the question to her? I'm wondering if she's waiting for me to ask her... I've always made it seem like to her that I'm not really into her...when i really am. What should I do? Was what she said last night anything worth considering?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): I don't know what you are waiting for....It is better to make some kind of move, ask her out on a proper date, spoil her a little and show her some romance, she will forget the other guy in a heart beat, he is already taken, and she is wanting to find someone it sounds like to me....why shouldn't it be you?
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reader, avner +, writes (22 October 2007):
avner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi again.
Alright- So I finally decided that I would tell her how I feel about her... she asked me if I would like to go home with her or the weekend and I said yeah.
well, we hiked around and stuff and I was about to tell her how much I like her but it she talked about another guy who she really likes but he has a girlfriend...
I decided to hold back myself...
Am I wasting my time here or should I tell her and possible lose her as a friend....
its gotten more complicated than I thought..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Just go for it, she is probably unsure whether you like her since you shrugged her off a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): What is holding you back? Be the man and step up to the plate or she is going to move on and find someone who will.
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reader, avner +, writes (9 October 2007):
avner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi again.
Thanks for all your responses...
well, things have gotten a little more complicated....
I still havent told her how I feel about her and ever since I shrugged her off a bit when she said that... she doesnt talk to me as much as she used to?
I still wonder if I should go and tell her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Firstly, well done to you for not pursing her when you were unsure of her feelings. So many men corner the girls they fancy until they get their own way, so that just shows that you do actually care about her and the way she feels.My brother has recently been to Iraq too he was with the staffords - hope your injuries wernt too bad. Anyway, being in the military comes with a tag. Being away from home so often, people assume that you have a different woman at every port. If this is the case then there is no point in hurting your friend along the way, however it sounds as though you think alot of this girl and would have good intensions.I'd say go for it, it is plain to see that she thinks the world of you, she is just waiting for you to take the lead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Pop the question? You don't mean marriage right??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Ok, this girl is clearly into you, and she is waiting for you to give her some sign that you like her/love her too. Women wait for the man to pursue them, so if you really have feelings for her, you need to step up to the plate and show her....try kissing her the next time you take her to the movies, or hold her hand...let it go from there, if she likes you, you will definately know by her response.
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