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writes:My fiancee and I have been together 7 years (3 of them being engaged) and last week she dumped me saying that she wanted so space and time to "figure out some things"... This was a huge surprise to me because in the 7 years we've been together, we hardly ever fought... Recently, I guess we've been bickering more then usual but nothing that warranted dumping me... So I decided to give her the time and space she wanted. She put it like this, when I'm ready to talk to you I'll call you... She also didn't want to see me either... That lasted 3 days where she called me one morning to tell me about a movie that was coming on (personaly I think she just wanted to talk). At last, I thought she was coming around... So the next day I figured I'd surprise her with 2 dozen pink roses(her favorite color). I owed her a little bit of money and we both agreed that I would come over her house and drop it off in person.. Since I didn't like the idea of leaving it in the mail box.. She agreed but wanted a phone call before I came... So that next day I called her but she wasn't there and I left a message on her answering machine saying I'd be over later to drop off some money.. Knowing she wasn't home, I stopped at her house and dropped the roses off by her back door and left... A few hours went by and I stopped back at her house... I knocked on the door, she seen me and did a complete turn and walked back into the house, saying I broke my promise to her of not giving her space or time... Now, we both agreed that I was allowed to drop money off so I was so confused as to why she got so mad... I called her when I got home to see what was going on...? She said her son is scared of me and that he was scared I was going to hurt him or his mother.. I never once laid a hand on either one of them, so why he all of a sudden got scared of my I have no clue..? I was too dumbfounded to even ask why he was scared of me..? She continued to yell at me saying I broke my promise and that her son never wants to see me again.. She told me that we were thru and never come over again.. Well 30 minutes went by and I get a call from the police saying if I go over there again, I'll be arrested for criminal tresspassing... I was so shocked she called the police, I didn't know what to say...? She has a very bad temper and usually would say things she really didn't mean to ... I need to know what the hell is going on, I need to talk to her and ask her why is her son all of a sudden scared of me.. Her son and I had a awesome relationship and I don't know where this is coming from..? Should I give her a call (it's been 10 days since that happened and we haven't talked or seen each other since then) and ask her what gives or should I continue to give her space and time...? I mean she still has the 2,000.00 dollar engagement ring...??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): The girl seems to have lost it. Move on. the ring... that is yours and you have a right ot it back. The ring was given to her as a commitment to make the next step to spend your life together. you may have taken too long for the wedding, but the fact that you no longer are going to get married means that ring does not belong to her anymore. especially since she si the one breaking it off.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Three years seems like a long time to be engaged. . . when you're in your 30's.
I'd like to hear her side of the story, but just hearing yours, I'd have to say that she has made up her mind and doesn't want to see you. I'd leave it at that.
If you start to try and figure her out, it might just make you crazy. She could be suffering from any number of disorders (bipolar comes to mind), but that's not for me, or you, to diagnose.
It might be a good opportunity for you to get out and about, and meet someone new.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): Ok, I undrestand what you are going through, my advice to you is this, the person who is calling the police by lie behind your back, is not your true lover and never will be. no matther of what you think going on inside her head, this relationship is nothing but the trouble, and continuing this you will get seriously hurt emotionally.
Please give her money, and keep away from her, I know it is hard, but doing it now may be better than 10 years down the line. she is not going to be a good partner for you and i am sorry to say that.
Please forget the ring , give her an space, keep yourself busy if she wants to talk she will come around, please make sure you don't fall in her trap of going there again. make a record of the event, and conversations. keep away from her.
I am sorry to be stright about it, but you got to be realistic.
good luck!
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