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writes: i don't know what on earth to make of me and my friends relationship. everyone i know says we have the strangest friendship because they can tell we're not just friends. she's with someone, but has confessed her love for me, but then said she was going to stay with her partner. after a few days, i called her out on it, saying that i thought it was pretty terrible that she's playing with two peoples emotions, and that she was emotionally cheating on her boyfriend by saying she loved me. she immediately took back loving me, and insisted that i was really only her friend, and she had made a mistake with her feelings. we were taking a walk, when she mentioned it, saying that she realized that i was only a best friend. and i don't know if she really meant it, or got her feelings hurt or felt guilty by me calling her out like that. and even if i straight out ask her, i know she won't tell me the truth. she'd lie about it. so i don't know what to do. if someone confesses that they're in love with you, and then take it back, what the heck does that mean? and why would she do that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): Im in the same position, except my friend has told me she loved me many times, and i dont know what to do buddy. I know its really hard. I think she really does love you, but doesnt want to be wrong by loving you. She doesnt want her telling you of that love to escalate to the point where, she has to choose you, or her partner. Its a very strange situation, but with time, your answer should come.
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reader, Raona +, writes (15 September 2006):
 Okay, this situation happened to me about a year ago....and i'm with the man that told me he loved me then denied it. Fight for her hun. Go to her and tell her you love her, by the sounds of things she scared to take the chance.
If she has been a friend for many years though, then she may be genuinly mixed up with her feelings with you as friend as opposed to a lover. But if you love her, don't hold back. Tell her, you may never get the chance again :)
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