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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 8 months. I was surfing this website one day and I wanted to see if he was on it too. It turned he was. I clicked on the person he had in his friend's list. While reading the things she posted, I found his name. She said he came to visit her on her college campus (while we were together), and she has a hard time controlling herself around him. I told him what I found and he told me they use to be friends when they were younger, and he doesn't remember visiting her. Still curious, I emailed her and found out they use to go out, but stopped because they lived too far away from each other. She said he didn't tell her about me, they were planning to get back together when she moved closer, and they saw each other and were intimate (while we were together).I told him what she told me and he claimly denied it and said she was crazy. I suggested that if she was lying that we catch her in her lie by calling her on 3-way, but he brushed that idea off. After I spoke to her, she called him and he didn't tell me what they spoke about. I also went through one of his email addresses and found 2 very incriminating emails--from another girl to him and vice-versa, but he said that his friend uses that email address, so I didn't really follow up on that one. I'm having major trust issues. Help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005): My sources say that this girl is telling the truth. Know why? Because she wouldn't have written into this page and lied.Get your boyfriend on his own and say you strongly suspect that he has been seeing someone else. Say that you will forgive him and carry on as normal if he tells the truth, but if you find out that he has been lying to you, then it may be rime to finish this relationship, although that may be hard, it's probably for the best.If you decide to give him another chance, it's unlikely that he will cheat on you again, because he will be shocked that you found out.Don't get annoyed with him though, be gentle, otherwise he may not want to tell you anything.If you get back together, you may find that you don't trust him as much, don't worry, it's normal and your trust will take time to repair itself but it will.If you get back together and find that you don't love him, then your relationship is broken, and you can't build a relationship while he loves you but you don't love him, so you should finish it.This may be hard for you to take in, and I'm sorry if I hurt you, but have you wondered why he cheated on you? Sorry, but it's probably because he's had enough of your relationship, but is too scared to finish it. I know that what I have just said is hard, but you'll have to accept it.
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