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writes:Hi Guys. I met this girl like 3 weeks back, I was somewhere new and asked her for directions. She had the most charming of smiles and we soon got talking (even after she pointed me to the right way) We since exchanged numbers and have been really close since. The thing is me and this girl have so much in common and we just get along so well. even though we have met in a short while I find her so easy to talk to, and our company together is always so amazing like we have known for so long. The last time she was at my place she kissed me, we made out and even slowed danced to travis "sing" (no sex though) and she told me she has never gone that far with a guy before. I asked her if she would like us to start a relationship (turned out to be a huge mistake) and she said she feels I am moving too fast and she is still not sure of her feelings for me. Well I am so sure of mine for her. She said she would like us to be just friends (though she did admit it would be weird if she sees me kissing another girl) Anyway I don't mind giving her time but thing is since meeting this girl I do most of the calling. She has never once picked up the phone see how am doing. (well unless to returned my missed call) Although when I call she always tells me how she missed me and keeps staring at the phone waiting for my calls to come in (well you can always do something about it) It kinda makes me feel uncomfortable with the whole arrangement I just don't feel that wanted in her life. Is it imperative that a girl must call a guy she is crazy for? I had to delete her number to prevent me from call and since I have, (close to 4 days now) I have not heard a word from her (even though she knew I was ill) I really don't know what to make of her. Its not too late to cut things with her before I am kneel deep. At the same time its not every time I meet someone who I get along so well with (she even agreed to go on a short holiday with me to spend sometime close to the mighty niger river) I am just confused on how best to approach this :( (sorry for my bad English :/ )
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): If she doesn't call you at all, she's probably not that into you and just wanted to try a few things. Maybe her friends put her under pressure to try sex. Your best bet is to forget her, if you keep your hope you're just delaying your recovery.
I've been in a similar situation and I carried my pain for way too long by keeping my hopes up that I can turn her around, please don't make that mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): I think she does have feelings for you but she obviously just has a different approach to the relationship compared to you. It seems she wants to be persued as she is the girl and you must do the chasing because you are the guy.
Yes its a little old-fashioned I think as it should be 50/50 when contacting eachother, but some people have that view. I would contact her and let her know that she can call you whenever she wants that its ok to do so. Also ask her if she sees your relationship developing into something more in time.
Her reaction will tell you whether or not she will ever want a relationship, again she might just be one of those people, but I do think its clear she is into you, otherwise she would not have agreed to go on holiday with you or dislike it if you kissed another girl. I think she may just need reasurring that she won't get hurt.
Good Luck.x
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (17 August 2011):
 I can understand that it hurts that she is not calling you. However she probably feels overwhelmed by you. I suggest to ignore her and move on with your life. If she wants to contact you then she will call you.
Good Luck and Take care!
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