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writes: I had been dating a girl for a little over a year. We were in love. She was great always leaving little notes, text messages just being very loveing. This is her first long term relationship. She is 23yo and I am 28. All of a sudden she said she needed space, she didnt know what she wanted. She says she still loves me but needs time to think??? I dont understand what to do, nor what that means. We dont live together, but do work together. We still get along great. It has only been a week and I love her to death but dont know what to do!!! Please help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): How much space is enough? If she ask or more then a month, is it over?
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (5 January 2006):
 All women are different, but I personally use the "I need space" line when there is something about the relationship that is troubling me, but I have trouble discussing it, so I request the space and time to do some self-reflection and see what I discover.
Another scenario: If this is her first long-term relationship, then maybe she needs time to reflect on what she expects out of this relationship and where it is headed. Maybe she realizes that she moved too quickly by declaring her love for you and going the extra mile with the little notes and text messages. Again, all women are different; these are just my speculations.
If she wants space, then you have to give it to her. Requesting some space isn't always a bad thing; it's better for her to recognize that she needs space than for her to ignore it and later break up with you, saying that the relationship made her feel stifled.
In the meantime, you could try talking to her about it. Ask her why she feels that she needs space, but also tell her that you respect her wishes and will grant her that space, even if you don't agree with or understand the reason why she seems to need space.
Best of luck to you.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (5 January 2006):
 I know it must be hard, as you thought everything was fine but you have to give her the space she wants. I know it can be confusing, can't we all sometimes?! Whatever he conclusion is, you'll know it's exactly what she wants if you've allowed her the space to make the decision herself. I'm sure, if she loves you, she'll be back and you'll make things work.
Just try to relax, let her know you're always there if she needs a chat and all you can do then is wait for her. Everyone panics sometimes or has stuff on their mind and needs time to think it over alone so be patient and stick it out.
Good luck, I'm sure everything we be fine. Keep me posted!!!
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