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writes:After 4.5 years being engaged,I accidentally discovered my fiance' just recently got on eHarmony, and was very briefly on it 17 months ago. We lived together for 2 yrs, until she got a job 70 miles away [she hadn't worked in 5 yrs] 20 months ago. I also found she's been telling her friends for over a year she wanted to end it. I just ended it. She's worked killer hours for 20 months, is exhausted all the time and sleep deprived: obviously she's in a "survival mode". Over the past 20 months, she's been rude, callously indifferent, and non-responsive for days; but she swears she's never slept with anyone else, and she still 'loves' me, but doesn't want to have a sexual relationship with me. My 21 yr old daughter says that's stupid and ridiculous. Of course I still lvoe her, but I can't just be friends. I see this as her really just wanting to be friends. I'm confused: Your thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): For the responder who questioned my committment: I not only proposed to her and gave her a $5000 engagement before she moved in 4 years ago [we agreed to not set a date], but I was wearing a wedding ring for the longest time!! until she started her callous indifference, and non-responsiveness, and rudeness; about 6 months ago I stopped wearing it. And the only reason she moved away 20 months ago is for the job 70miles away. She hadn't worked in 5 years and was living here rent free while chasing windmills for her dream job: 3rd world development, with the governement or with a non-governmental organization. I was TOTALLY committed to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I think the writing was on the wall when she moved away. Did you ever propose to her? Some women move on when the guy doesn't have any feelings of long term commitment for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I agree with pvtguy. Looks like you've come to the end of the road, or at least, she has. Your daughter is right too.
Can you hear that inner voice telling you to move on? It's shouting at me!
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reader, OmegaXF +, writes (11 February 2009):
 Oh I got your answer. She doesn't want sex means she is holding out on you and their is ironically some trust issues going on. The way it sounds I can say it's not your fault. But if you try to go farther and you know you might then I can just tell you it's not going to work.
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