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writes:I need some help. I was with my ex girlfriend for around 2 years on and off. At first it was amazing but then like any other couple we had problems. I broke up with her last october and for months she cried to me every night saying she wanted me back.I spent most of my time working and socialising with friends then i decided i missed her and wanted her back, but now she has changed her mind. she says she loves me and misses me but doesnt want to be with me and i just cant understand why. It has now also become apparent that one of my best friends wants to be with her, i confronted him but he denies it, although admits it to my other friends. i want her back so much, and did before i discovered my friends feelings, but she wont have any of it! What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): Wow! This is what is happening to me right now. I was with him for 2 years and he asked me to marry him last april...and on Jan 3 He broke up with me cause he got "scared"... Now Im broken...i soon hopefully will come to the point where I dont want him anymore. He still comes around when he wants to or when he misses me..."keeping the door of feelings open" just incase if make the wrong decision....but Im getting more mad each day.... I cry everyday....I hold my phone and my heart skips a beat when it rings each time in hopes that it is him.... But one day I know ill say enough is enough.... And then he will be in your shoes. i want to see him grieve me..Damit I hurt so very deeply. i live in my depression...i want him to know it. If you love her keep trying...maybe after awhile she will see you are being sincere.... but you do owe her rivers of tears....because that is what you left her with.
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reader, Midge +, writes (21 March 2007):
 If your girlfriend has made up her mind, then there is no point trying to get her to change her mind. If she needs convincing then its not something she is comfortable with and not a true feeling. You will never know how she is feeling when she is with you. Somehow I think it would be better not to be with her rather than being with her.
As difficult as it is, you need to get on with life. There are plenty really nice girls out there that will treat you with the love and respect you deserve, rather than play mind games.
Now you probably wont want to hear this but: If your friend wants to get together with her, you need to make a decision. Do you ditch your friend because of what he wants, or do you wish him well and hope the best for him. Either way, if she feels the same way as he does, although its not "right" for your friend to do that, its hard to fight the way you feel about someone.
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reader, stevie jade +, writes (21 March 2007):
 She is protecting herself from having another broken heart.She has grieved and now its your turn.Shes scared shele gethurt again.Theres nothing you can do, but be there for her,and try to understand her.If you truly love her,dont do this to her again,make it clear you made mistakes,and your sorry.If all else fails youve got to accept the situation, and move on, learning by mistakes.
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