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writes:Please help....I've been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years and Ive mentioned here and there about either cumming in her mouth or swallowing. She said its gross and she cant do it so I understood. Last night we were talking and it came out that she has let other guys cum in her mouth between 4-8 times and swallowed 3-5 times. I hurt and confused and cant stop thinking about this. She said it was prob because she was really high at the time. Her longest relationship was half of how long weve been together...I dont get it...please give some advice. Thank you so much!
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Hi Siuel20. I can understand why you feel hurt and can't stop thinking about it. I think I would feel the same as you if she had done it with other guys but not with you. Fair enough if she said "done it once and didn't like it - never again." It's perfectly understandable that you feel hurt - it's like a rejection. Probably makes you wonder what are the reasons she stays with you. I think I would start to feel a little cynical about the whole relationship if it were me.
But feelings aren't always rational. And it seems you have the rational explanation. And getting cynical is just going to make matters worse. So if everyhting else in the relationship is Ok then you have to put this issue behind you and accept her choice and respect it. Good luck.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 What isn't there to get?
She tried it and doesn't like it.
You care about her right? Then why try to get her to do something she doesn't like?
Because you're putting your selfish pleasure above hers? If that's true then you don't care about her.
Or because you're insecure about it and think she must have liked those guys more than you because she let them? That's probably what's going on.
Don't let your insecurity drive you to try to force your girlfriend to do things she doesn't want to do. That's the definition of an abusive relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): perhaps she tried it and didnt like it. Then requesting not to have to do it again is a fair choice dont you think?
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reader, Sandman +, writes (24 September 2007):
 You know, allowing a man to come in your mouth is a big step for some women. Some women, like your woman, find it terribly gross. Other women can't get enough of it. If she were high when she did it, it's possible the drugs were the factor in allowing her the ability to do it rather than her own common sense. Drugs and alcohol really depress inhibitions and cause us to do things we normally wouldn't do. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If she's even giving you oral you should be happy. There are women who aren't even going to put a penis near their mouth, let alone let one cum in it. I agree with Fairy lu, she's growing up and discovering her likes and dislikes. She's also not high (which should be better because she's able to make better decisions about her sexuality). Ultimately this is your decision on whether or not it's going to be a big deal. If it is, then you need to let her know how you feel. If not, then let it go and move on to bigger issues that will surely come later on.Hope this helps.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Maybe she is growing up and knows what she likes and what she doesnt like and if she was high when she swallowed and let guys come in her mouth then fair enough he is allowed to figure out if she likes it and experiment but now she is growing up and doesnt like it and i have to agree with her its gross but dont push her into it just accept that she isnt going to do with it and even though she has done it in the past she doesnt want to do it anymore
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