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*immo
writes:hey my girlfreind who i was going out with for 7 months recently cheated on me(she kissed another bloke). my family dont think i should go back to her but i think she is the love of my life. she has appologised a number of times.its been 1 week since the break up should i go back with her? im at my wits end trying to decide please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): Nah, I'd say, move on. No girl kisses another dude if she's seriously in love with someone else. It just doesn't happen. Case closed. She's still playing the field. If you go back to her, you'll never be able to trust her again and you know it'll never work out. She doesn't respect you, or the relationship she has with you. Best of luck to you.
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reader, nimmo +, writes (6 May 2007):
nimmo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the advice guys it means alot to me :) i will think it all over and take both veiws into account and hopefully things work out for the best :)
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 May 2007):
 What's your instinct? Do you still want to be with her? You're both young and when you're young you make more mistakes than you might otherwise. It really is down to you rather than your family's thoughts since you will have to live with the regret if you do what they want even tho it's not what you want so think carefully. You're not under any pressure to make a decision. The only thing I would say is that she's had her last chance now. If she does it again you need to be firm. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2007): If she's the 'love of your life' then tell me..what was she doing kissing another bloke behind your back? Was that a loyal, loving thing for her to do to you? Be thankful it was just a kiss, some people go further than just a kiss. . Even so, a kiss was a selfish act, on her part, knowing she was with you. The intent was there. I know she has apologized but really, really listen to your family, dear. They truely love you and I feel they are giving you good advice. They are not blinded by the romantic thrall of love for this girl, like you are. Sit with them and tell them what you are going through. You really need their input, support and rational opinions. Do they know her real well? Did she spend a lot of time with your family? If you both have been dating for 7 months, your family may have had ample opportunity to assess her and decide what kind of person she is, for you. Naturally, you also want to ensure you will have a happy relationship with someone who is loyal, devoted and loves you. It's just been a week, your emotions are very, very fragile, you miss her. Take a breather, distract yourself, regroup and get your strength back. You are weak right now-emotions are in a whirl, you are doing battle in your mind with your heart. Don't settle for the fantasy of love and attachment, no matter the cost.You are thinking of those moments with her, when life was good, it was fun. . Sadly a good relationship is not lived moment by moment...it's all about commitment and totality. So, always remember, why you broke up with her. Remember, your family and friends see her, as he truly is and they love you and want you to be happy. You are much too vulnerable and weakened right now. See this through for a few more weeks and whatever you do...do not contact her. You need to believe in yourself, you need to gain back your rational thoughts..you need to heal and recover. Take your time...deciding. Learn from what has happened. You are young...so many other wonderful ating opportunities out there for you. Good luck, hun and I wish you the best.
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reader, imsoaddwithyoux3  +, writes (5 May 2007):
I would say that you should know the facts first, like why she did it? or what she was thinking. if you know that then I would say you should go back out with her if you truely think you love her.
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