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*r. Care
writes:My girlfriend will not stop talking to the ex-boyfriend because they are fourth cousins. They were together for five years, before I came into the picture. As we started dating she told me that it was her ex-boyfriend, but she fail to mention to me that they were related to each other. A couple of months of dating together, she confessed to me that her ex-boyfriend was her cousin and she couldn’t stop talking to him because they were related and her family doesn’t about her relationship, and she is afraid of having her family finding out. She admits to me that she knew the right thing to do was to stop talking to him ex-boyfriend, but she still continued talking to him. I really bother’s me a lot that they communicate to each other. She knows how I feel about him, but she still doesn’t do anything about it!!! I love her a lot, and we talk about getting married, but I really don’t trust her!!! I feel she doesn’t respect my feelings!!!!!!!!! I can’t stop thinking about it situtation!!!! This really brothers me!!!!!! We continue to fight over her ex-boyfriends and his calls. She tells me that she only see his ex’s, as a cousin, and that she love me a lot, but somehow I don’t believe her!!! Her actions are different, on what she has been saying!!!!!! Please I need help!!Lost
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reader, Dr. Care +, writes (14 September 2007):
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Well her ex-boyfriend ended the relationship, because he cheated on her.. I told her that maybe she stills have some feeling, but she denies it. She claims that there are no feeling, only she see him as a cousin. Nothing else, but she claims that she will stop talking to him only if we are married.
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Let me ask you this, answer from your own point of view. If you're in a relationship that ends, and you're not over your ex, what benefit would you bring to a new relationship? The problem is, people jump from relationship to relationship, and they don't give time for closure with the last one. It's not fair to you, who now is experiencing her doing this. It's not giving your relationship a fair chance.
Did they end their relationship because of an actual reason, or the fear of family finding out? How a relationship ends, can make a big difference. It could make it where she is physically with you, but mentally still with him. Her behavior is hard to factor out. If your relationship is to work, her contact with him needs to settle, and her talking about him all the time needs to stop.
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