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writes:Hi' I have a little insecurity issue occuring lately. On New Years Eve my wife and I attended a party at a friends place. A while after we got there my wife said she had to go to the bathroom. When she came back she was all horned up. I asked what got into you she told me she walked in on "Bill" standing there finishing up taking a piss.She told me she couldn't help just staring at the size of his penis she said it had to be about a foot long.I said well what did he do she said he just stood there for a few seconds because he noticed she was staring at it.Now every time were intimate she brings him up and mentions how large he is. That makes me feel really inferior. I think she is totally sexually apealed by him because whenever we go anywhere and she knows he is going to be there she dresses extra sexy and flirts with him all the time. She even asked me if I would ever be open to a threesome she never specified "Bill" but I figure thats what she's getting at. The last time we were with him she was bending over in front of him repeatedly almost as if she was tempting him to touch her. What I want to know is how the hell do I go about telling her how I feel without sounding like a pussy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): What a bad girl. She must know this is rude. Are you sure she is not trying to punish you for something? Could you have already made some comment about someone else that made her feel inadequate? It feels she is doing stuff as much for your benefit as this guys.
I also wanted to say that she she would probably be disappointed. I once had a well-endowed lover and he was really ordinary and often the sex was uncomfortable.
I know everyone has their own preferences - but I just wanted to say bigger is not always better. I definitely don't think so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): 1st: Sorry you are experiencing this!
2nd: Being that I don't know the contingencies of your relationship (kids, house, and all). Now, you can't leave someone and keep your kids and house without verifiable proof... accusations don't stand up in court! What I would do first, if you want to retain this relationship, is talk to her and let her know that this is effecting you. You have not made your size ratio to his known, it may be that she is not satisfied with your current sex life. That is a hard one to hear but it is the truth. Ask her about that; because, it sounds as if she is fantasying about "Bill" since she brings him up before sex.
Personally, if my wife asked me about another guy before sex my penis would go completely flacid. It not so much about you being a man, and you having to enstill that in your relationship. You are a human and you deserve the respect that you give her. If she doesn't know she is offending you then let her know. These situations, if unremeded, always seem to snowball out of proportion with the end result being someone cheated and litigation.
You need to ask yourself, how far is she from that point and if she has crossed it? If you believe that there is a solid relationship to salvage here then you need to take this time to really pick up on your wife's sexual needs. That means show her that you can bring it, try some new stuff be kinky, try some light bondage, and buy some sex books! But your relationship should be based in communication, she is communicating with you...now communicate back to her "STOP IT!"
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reader, mr41 +, writes (15 March 2009):
 I would just mess with her best friend right in front of her and then when all three of you are together text your wife and ask if she would want to have a threesome
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): I can't believe your wife but I blame you coz you're letting her disrespect you. Put your foot down as the man of the house. It's not being a pussy, it's putting her in her place.
How would she like it if you kept talking about another woman with a really tight pussy.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): your wife is now in the look out for something else (meaning Bill's big d***). Tell her that you WILL NOT stand for her nonsense. Assert yourself in this marriage or else she will make you a cuckold. She needs to repect you and your marriage and well if she can't then show her the door. Salvage some pride, watch her, and ensure that she is not alone with Bill (or unnecessarily with another man). The lady is on the prowl...........the warning is here. And yes, give her a bit of her medicine, show her that you too have noticeed better out there (how would she feel to know that she is also inadequate). But becareful this doesn't end up tit for tat..........
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): A foot long, eh?
I'm pretty sure it would have to be surgically enhanced if that were the case because I'm about 98 percent certain having a dong that large is physiologically impossible.
Can you imagine the amojnt of blood it would take to make a penis of that size erect? He'd faint because he'd have little blood left in his body to run anything else.
At any rate just tell her a threesome is cool... but only with another woman or a guy who has a smaller penis then you. No man should have to share his wife with another man who has a larger penis.
Flynn 24
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (14 March 2009):
 Oh geez! She's being really insensitive! Just tell her straight out you don't want to hear about Bill's big dick anymore. If you don't want to sound like a pussy, be manlike about it.
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