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writes:Hi,I have been with my girlfriend for well over a year now. She is divorced with two kids and this is my first serious relationship ever. After five months seeing each other we moved in together and things have been really great.We do love each other and I have introduced her to my family. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is the text messages that I sometimes see in her phone. These texts are from some males that I don't know. Some of them tell her how much they love and miss her and some tell her they want to have kids with her. This has always made me angry and we've had fights about this. Basically, I don't think she respects me or our relationship. I strongly believe these are the things they talk about when I'm not with her. No man will send a woman such texts without reason.During our early days of dating, she would go out to lunch with other males and then tell me they're clients. But I know that not many men will just take a woman out on lunch when they didn't expect to get some action.Five months ago she told me she was sorry about this. I believed she would change but nothing has changed. A few weeks ago I suggested we get separated so that she can go out with whoever she wants to. She didn't want me leave. I also want to stop being an option in someone's life when I've made them a priority in my life. Right now I want to take the game back to her: start flirting with other females. I'm I being unreasonable?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): Look I think that you are in a very awkward situation, and you have to take action before you get badly hurt. I clearly do not know this girl, but from what I have read it seems like she does seem to love you but she is searching for something more. She wouldn’t say with you for so long if she dint love you, but at the same time if she is texting and meeting up with other males is clearly betraying you on some level. A relationship should be built on honestly and trust, and it seems like this one is not. You need to find out what this girl truly wants, and if it is not you then you should move on, because you will find love again with someone that can fully commit themselves to you. I hope everything works out for the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): I think you should stay away from her for a while. Like while she dates otherr guys. See that you CAN live without her. If you put your foot down and show her you are not putting up with it then either she will realize what she has or she doesn't care. Trust me...put your foot down and she will see. If she doesn't then she is not for you. Good luck
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