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writes:I am in a relationship with a married woman, S, who is deeply unhappy, we have been seeing each other for 18months when time and family allow. I am seperated with two children and she has two children. Her husband has had three affairs prior to our meeting and on one occasion left home to live with a new partner. He later returned. When I met S her confidence was shot to pieces due to the verbal and mental abuse she suffered, as well as his affairs. She is not planning to leave him at present, but is planning to when her youngest child is a little older. He has now started to try and control her again as he 'suspects' she may be seeing someone. This includes banning her from going out with her friends from time to time, as well as threatening her with 'making her life hell' and 'leaving her with nothing, including the kids' shoudl she ever leave him.He has not been physically violent but does play mind games, and is effectively trying to emotionally blackmail her. I am trying to keep her spirits up and assure her that no court in the land would take her children away from her. Clearly his bullying is upsetting her and for her own peace of mind she would like some assurance that should she decide to leave him she would have adequate rights. Should anyone have any similar experiences, or advice, it would be most welcome. Many thanks, Richard
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reader, blissxixta  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 Hi Richard...I c this must have been a hard time for u and her.... I think u stop and think! U may love but do u have everythin she may desires...A woman desires is what a man cant take away from her..Fine! u love her does she loves u ...she cant be suffring in a mans hand and stil remain there ..it's does not matter if her baby is too young ..if a woman is fed up nobody tells her to leave ....so the question is what is still stopin her from leavin him. I think u are in a little danger here. she is stil married to that man and she leaves with him. so possiblity of u dating a married woman is not biblcal.Im not judgin u here but to tell u 2 protect yrself from what u dont know how or what started the problems. i would advise u to call her and ask how is all started so u would know how to defend yrself from there.I dont know how to tell u this but if she really want to be wiht her notting should stop her divorcin the man b4 he did...so she may have some rights and peace of mind to herself........God loves u brother blixx
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