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writes: My girlfreind has had someone attempt to force themselves upon her in the recent past before i met her, shes a virgin of 19 years old and shes amazing in every way. How can i get her to even to commit to a kiss when i see in her eyes that shes unconfortable !! But she says she still wants to be with me.. and that she loves me???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): dude..do u love her? i feel that u obv do as ur concerned..and uve seen the uneasyness in her eyes..ur a gud guy..please stay this way..she will kiss u when shes ready..speak to her..n say..'let me know when ur ready..ill always be here to support u'..giv her the chance to have faith in u...best of luck..freind x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): It's difficult to give advice on such a small amount of information but your girlfriend will kiss when she is ready. If she loved you, I think she would want to kiss you. If she is still not over whatever happened in her past, she would be incapable of feeling "true" love; a love that involves intimacy or affectiom.
You don't want to "get her" to commit to a kiss or try and sort out her confusion for her. If she is not ready to kiss you, then you must accept that. Trying to hurry her up, or "show" her that kissing someone you love is good and normal will only ultimately do more harm than good; in my opinion.
Give her time. See if she naturally comes around to the idea of wanting to be physically more intimate. If she doesn't - don't waste your time trying to change her. And don't feel compelled to stay with her, just because she says she wants to be with you, and that she loves you. Judge her on her actions - not her words -.
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