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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I wonder if you can help me with some advice. I've been with the my partner for 6 years and we have two children togeather. Everything is perfect but I feel so sad its unpresidented. I love my partner so much and we have had a lots of downs and ups but I can't describe how much i love her as its so much.I've always been faithful, lied a few times about things such as smoking when I told her I havent and money things. She has "left me" on numerous occasions through arguments and most of the time its been something that has been blown out of proportion. She has been saying for the past 2 years "im not in love with any more, there is no spark we have nothing in common" and there has been blokes she has liked and talked to them on the internet and in some occaisons met them becuase she is unhappy with me. She alwsy says im the perfect boyfriend. Looks wise, things i do and the way I am but says she never feels like she will stay with me forever. there has been one significant bloke she has always had a soft spot for and recently she met but she tells me it was a complete anti climx and he wasnt what she hoped he would be...so I'm thinking great im in the picture now again maybe she will come back to me.Everytime she starts talking to men it gives me a huge kick up the arse to make more effort. I mean ive been like this for years, its verging on obbessioning as I want her so bad. Its like she is all i think about all i breathe for (well apart from my children). I pine for her attnetion, i savour every little thing she does, the way she touches my hands (which to some people they prob take for granted) every little thing. Every kiss every hug every stare every smile. It drives me insane as I just want her so bad. I would marry this girl tommorrow if i could, but she has already said on a few times she wouldnt marry me as she is not 100% happy with me. It hurts so much. All I want is for her to say "I want you nobosy else and I adore you like you adore me". She never will though. Im sure she sees me as somebody who holds her back, who has stopped her from progressing her life happier, I feel like all the time im responsible for her being sad, looking elsewhere. I think she is amazing, there is no deniyng that im not in love with her. She is everyhting, she is gorgeous and beautiful and i tell her every single day from the haert she is and she never accept its. But if another guy says it she accepts it and then we have anohter person who is getting un her heart. I just dont know what to do to keep me sane. I love her so much it drives me crazy. I just wished she loved me as muhc as i love her and she I just need some adivce, not even that, just somebody to say ive been there....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys. No she never got as far as sleeping with them. God I feel so rubbish today abouty it all. I just want to run away and hide, I'm so sad about it all. She said last night she is not optimistic about us, when I said I am. How can somebody be pesemistic about us and yet say they want to try. I just want her to want me ;( I nevr pray I don't believe in religion but I'm so desperate to get her back I've prayed how sad am I.
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reader, anonymous8845  +, writes (24 August 2009):
Ive been there. I have been ignored. I have been in love with this boy for over a year now and he blows me off time after time. He says he loves me too but he moves on and dates other girls. He never once tells me now happy i make him or that i am the one, he just see's me as a "Hottie to fool around with." i Have tried to move on but everytime i met someone knew i see his face on every other persons. I feel your pain as if its my own. I am sorry she is doing this and i know its hard but you will get through this.
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