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writes:I fell in love with my first cousin about 7 months ago. we never really let each other know that we had a crush on one another (we never talked so we were like strangers) so things just kinda lead one thing to another. She moved in with us due to family problems, and for the 1st week we never talked. I started talking to her once I found out she was scared of me. I knew it wasn't going to be comfortable for her to live with us knowing she was afraid of me so I started talking to her so she wouldn't be scared of me.Once we started talking we started to hang out everyday once I got home from work. We watched movies, ate, walked and even slept in the same room. As the days went by I started falling in love with her as she did we me. It got to the point were all I could think about was her (still to this day). One night we were laying in bed and we were playing around just having fun as always and we some how ended up face to face and I just went for it and kissed her. I just couldn't hold back any longer I was afraid of what her reaction would be, turned out she was in love with me too.So the days and months passed and we were happy I've never felt this way with any girl. Till this one day she kissed me and my mom caught us so we had to tell her what was going on. At first she was saying it a mortal sin, but we told her we didn't chose to fall inlove. As the days passed by she excepted it because she saw how happy we were, she would just tell us to be careful.The day everything changed was when my oldest brother started acting like an a**hole and made things difficult for us. We said we wouldn't allow anything to break us apart so we remained strong side by side. He would tell my mom that there was something going on between us and my mom would cover up for us saying we just get a long very well. His abusive ways towards us kept coming everyday but we just loved eachother way too much to allow it to break us apart, till one day she called her a slut and a whore. Thos really got her crying, she said no ones ever called her that in her life. The day everything changed was on 12/31/10 just last month. It was around 9am when she said she wanted to go home that she just can't take anymore bullshit from my brother. I didn't want her to go but at the same time i didn't want her to suffer. So I told my parents and they took her back home. Now we"re not together and its devistating. We still talk everyday on the phone and she wants to come back with me. I don't know how to get her back here. My dad told me to ask her if she wanted to come back and at the time she did want to but didn't know how to tell her mom. She suffers way too much back at her house. She has told her mom about us and unexpectidly has understood our love and is ok with is as is my mom. The hard part about getting her back here is that my brother called her sister and brother letting them know that something is going on with us. Now its harder as the days pass by to stay intouch due to my brother. The reason my dad didn't pick her up was because her sister called him saying she doesn't want him to pick her up anymore and that things were happening that he didn't know about. The thing is my cousing whom I'm inlove with is 23yrs old so I'm always telling her she is an adult and can make her own decisions. She is my happiness and I am hers. Nothing is the same without her. I need help to find a way to be together or to get back down her with me as she wants to. I know my dad wouldn't approve of this but we don't care all we know is that we love eachother and want to be with each other.So please people anyone who knows what I'm going through please help me out in his difficult situation I am in.
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reader, whowonttoknow0527 +, writes (17 January 2011):
me and my nephew are with eachother and we been with other for 5 years but was with eachother when we was younger we was the 1st ones to be with eachother but we lost contact and found eachother again thank god and we both said we would not let that ever happen again and we moved in with eachother and if u guys are old enough to get a place why not do that cuz thats how much we wonted to be with eachother thank god we are still going strong and plan to get married and we have 2 wonderful boys and he has 2 step children and our boys are great in health and sprit
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reader, ssaarraahh +, writes (16 January 2011):
 you should talk to ur mom and dad and discuss it,after u try talking with ur cousins parents. u will have to try ignoring ur bro or telling him manners cz he doesnt have the right 2 say like this. its really bad n im sorry for u
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reader, EPocket  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 would write a book abt ur situation there . and how beautiful things are .
"I need help to find a way to be together" u both already together :) more close than anyone would think . if u came out of all this u`ll end up together one day :)
as no one here knows HOW things REALLY at ur home or in ur family etc. the only offer would be a house to bring u both in .. but no one is able to do it for u as i guess .
the only advice my mate is "PATIENCE" it`ll get better one day . as u`ll not live with ur parents support forever .
wish u all luck with all my heart mate :)
peace .
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