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writes:My fiance and I have been engadge for one month, one month ago we were in malysia and bali, it trully was the best holiday that I have ever had. She too agrees.in 20 day of the holiday, we never had a disagreement, argument or anything negative, we both felt like we made the perfect team. I paid for the entire trip as well as giving her a 2 carrat diamond ring, bought her cloths gucci sunglasses etc. When we got back, I started a new job and I find myself hating the job, she was rather supportive and gave me some solid advise. The same week we got back, she unfortunatly had to go for a biopsy and the results went to positive, it has been 5 weeks. We planed to go to swizerland together to one of her close friends weddings, I unfortunatly could not aford to go as I had just spent a fortune on the holiday 2 weeks earlier. I so desperatly wanted to go, as she is from swizerland and I wanted to meet her mother and brothers. Her father died 2 years ago and she has some inheritance from his estate. I ask her if she would loan me some money, so that I could go with her.she freaked out completly and we had a terrible argument.needless to say, I stayed and she went. On her return, our situation has been unplayable. She has told me that she resents me, because she is having to use some of this money to live on, as my job has not really got going, as I only have been there for 1 month, she is not working and I am paying all the bills, but I don't have enough for day to day expenses. My character, I would to think, is that iam extremly generous and extremly sensitive, we she can shut down completly. We are constantly arguing currently and I fear that we may not make it. I no am stuggling at home and at work, and finding myself in a hole. We, my partner and I, come from two seperat world, she from a rather wealth and privilage up bringing, and I from a hummble backround. Money is important to both of us, however I feel that she is losing faith in me. We have not been intimate for 5 weeks, but I do understand her situatiion. I feel like I am been pushed away and It is dretroying me. We have agreed, on her terms, to give our relationship 3 month, to try and work it out, but she never wants to talk about our situatiom, and shuts me out completly. She has become rather secretive, and naste.I loive her with every fibre in my being, however, I fear that she does not share the same anymore.How can I repair this.Kind RegardsLove fool
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Oh dear it sounds like this women is using you, a relationship is an equal partnership and therefore she should be paying her own pay. She is showing her true colours now as you are financially in trouble and she doesnt want to spend her own money never mind trying to help you out she is a very selfish women and i think you should leave her you deserve so much better, she is using you for your money and you are letting her, do you think am wrong and she loves you??? Well put her to the test then, tell her you are running low on money at the minute and you can only support yourself, tell her she needs to pay her half of the bills and spend her own money for her food and shopping, if she sticks by you and you both half everything then i am wrong and she is serious about you but if she doesnt then am afraid she only wants your money and you are being the fool giving it to her, i know its hard when you love someone you want to give them your last penny but am afraid money just cant buy true love.
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