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writes:I'm 25yrs my problem is i'm in love witht a girl i love her so much but my parent don't alow me to marry her b/cos shi is a widow with two son Reply to this Question
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reader, icelandery2k1  +, writes (11 August 2009):
Well my first though would be to do what you want to do , its your life , yes your parents might not like it at the moment , but when they see how happy you have been made when you are with her , they will be happy for you
But if you go with her and it font work out , you may get a i told you so , but your parent will be there for you ,to help you with the aftermath
then you could decide to do what your parents with and not see her to make them happy but with this could come regret and that is a hard thing to live with
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): You are 25. You are a man. Are you still financially dependent on your parents? Is there some religious aspect of this that you did not explain in your post? If you truly love this woman and she loves you back, why does her being a widow matter?
I'm a parent of 3. All I want for my children is to be happy with their choices in life. I'm sorry your parents do not feel the same way. My concern, however, is not that they do not like her because she is a widow, but because she is a mom. Marriage in and of itself is hard work, very rewarding, but hardwork. Adding an instant family makes it even harder just to get through the first year. It's also a lot of responsibility for a 25 year old man to raise someone elses child.
Try talking to your parents. Tell them that you really want to understand all the reasons why they do not approve of her or of the situation. Tell them that you love her and they cannot change your feelings, but maybe if you can be open with each other (you and your parents), you can all learn to be accepting of one another.
Good Luck!
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