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writes:dear aunts and uncles.im completely head over heels in love with my friend. she is beautiful, kind, caring, funny, sexy....simply perfect!! i think about her 24/7. when im with her i want to kiss her, touch her, hold her. i told her how i feel. she claims to be straight and said that she doesnt see me in that way. it was hard to hear but i respect her so havent pushed it.anyway, last week we were spending time together and she cuddled up to me on the sofa. i sat and enjoyed the moment thinking that was it. then....she kissed me. just a peck on the lips at first. she told me she kept thinking about it and wanted to try it. then we kissed a lot!! a few days later she kissed me again, very passionately.so the problem is...she hasnt spoken to me for 3 days now (we speak all day every day normally)!! i dont get it. she kissed me knowing how i feel- not once but twice. if she didnt like it she wouldnt have done it the second time surely?! what do i do next? i dont want to scare her away by calling too much but i miss her. do you think she regrets it and doesnt want to see me anymore? does she have feelings for me or not? has this happened to anyone else?! what am i supposed to do??any help would be great thankyou xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): Is she a good friend of yours? Are you sure she's not just playing with you? Okay, it could be that at first she said she was straight, and then with time the thought about being with another girl came into her head and she started liking the tought of being with you. She could have said no at first because she's never been with a girl ever (so she wouldn't know if she's bi or not) and that you are a friend so she never concidered you in the first place. But after it got out there, it's been circling through her head and she liked the thought if it. Hence she went in for a kiss to test the waters. Now she's scared of what she's done, maybe she liked it but doesnt know how to proceed. Maybe she didnt like it and was emberrassed to talk to you again and shameful because she didn't want to hurt your feelings.
Either way, after 3 days, send her a text perhaps? Thats not coming on too strongly, and at the same time lettin her know you are not mad at her and want to talk.
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reader, xxxsabsxxx +, writes (13 April 2010):
either this girl isn't straight but is in denial, or is straight but is experimental. there is no way of knowing which of these it is unless you ask her. dont talk to her untill she talks to you, you have to stay strong and wait for her. then ask her, and say be honest because this means alot to you. the answer she gives, live with. and if she says she is straight and was just experimenting, but then tries it on you again after that, dont kiss her back because this will only leave you looking like a mug again. gdluck xx
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reader, raiders  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 She kissed you and kissed you again but could it be that she was just curious, nothing sexually happened. She tells you she is straight, she probably is and might feel embarrassed after you guys smooched. If you are pursuing her as a girlfriend than let her know that the making out meant a lot to you and you are looking for more than just a friendship, and wait and see what happens from there. Tell her your intentions. Keep in mind thought that if she is straight and feel bad about the whole situation you might push her further away. Think about your situation how do you want her in your life?
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